YOGYAKARTA Children often look for ways to get the attention of their closest people or parents and caregivers. Sometimes the method is annoying and annoying, but it has to be understood and shouldn't be bullied. The need for attention, normal for a child. This is their main instinct to get what they need.

The attention that children need, is actually expressed with the simplest form of communication. Because they are not good at expressing in verbal language, they shout, get angry, cry hard, or tantrum. It should be understood, they are actually overwhelmed by the explosion of emotions in themselves. But because they don't know what they need, they feel something is not good and express it in their own way. So, that's why children often cap or seek attention.

Looking for attention is the behavior that children do to make you give full attention to them. Launching Therapist Parent, Sunday, November 24, if children seek attention, it means that they are trying to express their needs through behavior. But his behavior sometimes disturbs you, for example, screaming, crying, climbing the table. Children seeking attention may be dramatic, the goal is to get the attention of their parents. To deal with children who like to seek attention, here's the wisest way.

When children non-verbally express their needs, they are experiencing emotional jumps. If they are bullied, they will never know what they feel or need. So, hold back for a while and take a breath, avoid shouting or scolding your child while they are caper.

Apart from not being bullied, if children are ignored, they can tighten their efforts in getting attention. Can scream louder or behave more dramatically. Listen to them, pay attention. By paying the attention that children need, teach how to recognize needs and reveal them in a better way.

Children need to be taught to know their feelings. When he needs a hug because he is tired of activities in the public sphere, then teach him how to verbally express it instead of fussy. For other feelings, it is also necessary to teach them to recognize and express what their needs are in order to feel better.

You may misunderstand your child's feelings or needs. So make sure you stay open and keep in touch with each other respecting each other. It's okay to misunderstand, but make sure your child wants to try or explain what's really going on. When you do this, your child will begin to feel understood.

Parents who want to see their children's perspective will have a big impact. When we do this, we also help our children to recognize what is happening so that as their brains develop, they can make this relationship without having to jump straight into dramatic behavior to get attention.

When a relationship is based on empathy, a healthy relationship will be established. For example, when a child needs attention while you are busy working, say 'I might also do this if it is ignored all day'. This shows that your child is not alone. That way, parents also try to understand the emotions of children who are difficult to express in words.

Teaching children to express themselves when they need more attention, is a skill that needs to be honed from an early age. Until children can be skilled at doing it, parents must teach it continuously.

In addition to providing direction, give children time. They need time to process and learn to recognize emotions and express them in the right way, not dramatically. Keep in mind, attention is the main need that every child will look for. For this reason, teaching how to communicate assertively or expressing according to needs is the right way rather than for children to seek attention by shouting, getting angry, crying, and even tantrums.


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