6 Tips To Maintain Close Relationship Between Father And Daughter

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JAKARTA - Youth can be a difficult time for a father and daughter. When girls grow up to be teenagers, it is difficult for fathers to decide where and how they can adjust.

"As a parent, the role will change over time," said Jerry Bubrick, PhD, a clinical psychologist, as reported by the Child Mind Institute, Monday, October 21.

"When girls are young, the job of a father as a parent is to protect them physically and emotionally. But as they get older, dad has to take on a more role as consultants."

This is an important transition for both parents. But this transition could be a challenge for fathers, who often receive the message that their main role is "responsibility" to fix problems when they appear. And to protect their daughters, especially when dating, was part of that era.

Here are six tips to help fathers and girls maintain closeness and face inevitable changes that come with teens.

When children are young, it's important to be firm with them. However, when girls grow up and start looking for more independence, father's job changes," said Dr. Bubrick.

"Instead of making decisions for them, it's best to guide your girls in making smart decisions for themselves."

It's natural to want to keep the girls safe. But in terms of maintaining close and open relationships, what is protective and important when they are young begin to feel restrictive, and become a source of father vs son fights. On the other hand, fathers have to practice listening, notEACHing.

Taking a new approach that is not too authoritarian does not mean ignoring all the rules. However, even in setting boundaries, there is room for negotiations to give children the opportunity to say what is most important to them, so they have little support.

When you set the rules, you shouldn't set it yourself. You can discuss this with your child. So that later there will be nothing ambiguous about the rules, also minimizing conversations that can cause fights, "said Dr. Bubrick.

When your child is in adolescence, you may think that parental opinion is not important. In fact, the most important opinion for children comes from parents. Adolescents are a period related to self-confidence. As girls grow up, mothers tend to lead in private conversations and offer support and encouragement, and fathers often end up being stupid. Avoid this kind of attitude if you want a relationship with your child to stay close. Girls need positive feedback from both parents, especially during their teens. Tell your daughter that you are proud of her. Every now and then, give her praise for her physical appearance.

"Relation with him according to his level and activities," said Dr. Bubrick.

Short conversations on the way to or from school are fun, but to really be in a relationship, you need to get involved with things you're interested in.

Showing interest in the things he likes doesn't have to be complicated can be as simple as listening to his favorite music together, watching TV shows with him, or cycling together. The important thing is to let him lead, you communicate that you value his interests, and find a place where both of you can enjoy time together.

Childhood is most likely the first time girls get involved with romantic couples in the real world. So it's very important to talk to your daughter about what belongs and is not part of a healthy relationship. However, all the advice in the world means nothing if you say one thing, and he sees another thing at home.

Pay attention to how you and your partner interact, even at times that don't involve children directly. For example: Do you support when your wife tries new things (or has a bad day)? Do you listen with great interest, or cut the conversation when he has an idea? Seeing you as a supportive partner will automatically create your child's trust in you.

When girls were young, most fathers never thought twice to carry, hug tightly before bed, or hug. However,listure can make physical affection feel confusing and tense.

It's not strange for dad to feel awkward or unsure about what's right, but it's important not to attract your love. When arms suddenly turn into applause on the back, girls may worry that dads are ashamed of their changing bodies, or, in the most dramatic moments of teens, that they are no longer loved.