Mistakes To Avoid When Dating, Don't Expect A Perfect Partner

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JAKARTA - In today's times, dating apps seem important in helping singles find love. However, this also presents more challenges.

According to CEO & Co-Founder of matchmaking bureau Lunch Actually Violet Lim, the number of matches obtained often makes singles less respect for dating and do not feel the urgency to find a real partner.

"Dating apps make couples experience 'paradoxes of choice', which is that when we have too many choices, we tend to experience paralysis in analyzing and eventually don't make any choices. This causes singles to experience fatigue dating," Lim said in his statement, quoted by Very Well Mind, Tuesday, September 3.

For this reason, Lim reminded that there are five mistakes that must be avoided when dating.

The term pick me boy or girl is often heard in 2022, where someone tries to look different from other men or women to attract the attention of the opposite sex. In fact, it could be that he is not like that. This approach cannot be used to attract the attention of the opposite sex. On the other hand, be honest and to the point about yourself.

A tall and handsome man with young brown eyes who owns a luxury car and private yacht are common criteria that can be found easily in Korean dramas.

However, can the man guarantee that you have a warm family and give you a sense of comfort in the next ten years? It is the hard-working man who has a good relationship with his family and friends who can be used as a more promising partner.

So, building a family with the right man in real life is better than imagining a perfect life with perfect people who are just on paper.

Have you ever hoped in your heart that love will magically correct your partner's shortcomings or inspire him to change? This is a myth that love can make a person change.

This thought is indeed tempting, but you can't accept your partner as you are and it's difficult to assess your partner's true nature. You can challenge your partner to be better, but changes come from within, not through external demands.

When expectations turn into pressure, critical energy can quickly turn into tension, disappointment, and hatred. Relationships where the two couples naturally accept and respect each other can become the most radical and healing safe space that can be felt. Ironically, experiencing a sense of security can inspire a deep transformation. However, it cannot be forced.

Remember to keep your personal information a secret. Don't show everything you have to your date, but just show it part slowly. That way, you will look more attractive to your date. In addition, you can also avoid fraud.

You have to keep your hands off your gadgets while on a date and don't look for excuses to avoid your conversations. Instead of letting the conversation end, find other topics to talk about. You can also set up some interesting questions that you can ask on a date.