Although Independence Is Important, Interdependence Or Dependence Is The Key To Healthy Relationships

Illustration of interdependence and independence of the key to healthy relations (Freepic)

YOGYAKARTA In a pairwise relationship, independence is certainly needed. But interdependence is related to providing support, collaborating in decision making, to emotional intimacy. In addition to independence and interdependence, it is also important to limit coding. Codependence is an unhealthy excessive dependence that disrupts growth and personal welfare. Well, what is the difference between coding and interdependence or known for mutual dependence?

Interdependence, useful for maintaining healthy ties, wrote psychologist Cara Gardenswartz, Ph.D. reported by Psychology Today, Monday, May 22. Mutual dependence, according to Gardenswartz, is different from the idea of independence.

Interdependence is the dependence of two coupled people, by recognizing their relationship, and having their respective strengths in collaborating in a pairwise life. In a mutually dependent relationship, couples accept their weaknesses, share responsibilities, and gain strength from their respective unique qualities. Through pure open and reciprocal communication, they foster a sense of belonging and unity while maintaining their individual identity. Gardenswartz explains, here are the main characteristics of interdependence in pairwise relations:

Interdependence is different from independence. Independence or independence at extreme levels can actually sacrifice meaningful relationships. Although autonomous is also valuable, it causes excessive emotional release and reluctance to seek support from others. With maximum independence, a person may build walls around his heart. They are afraid to become vulnerable, afraid to rely on others, so they often feel lonely and hinder each other's deep bonds and trust each other.

Interdependence is also different from coding or excessive dependence. Overdependence in others, often sacrifices self-growth and individual welfare. Couples living in the spectrum of the encoding, may not have clear limitations, overresponsibility to just one person, low self-esteem, and fear of being abandoned.

So how to balance independence with interdependence in a pairwise relationship? Mutual dependence makes the relationship rich and meaningful. By fostering a balance between autonomy and connectedness, individuals can navigate relationships with gracefulness, vulnerability, and deep appreciation for the beauty of shared experiences. By doing this, they pave the way for authentic relationships that celebrate individuality and support each other.