Non-Violation Rules In The Friends With Benefit Relationship

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JAKARTA - The term friends with benefit or often shortened to FWB may not be something strange. The definition refers to a relationship without status and is more focused on sexual activities. That means, no dating, no romantic moments, no commitment, and full freedom.

Indeed, it does not rule out that this FWB couple can be casual friends when they are not making love, it could also lead to a serious relationship. However, know that while you are at it, don't expect much and put yourself up for fun.

There are unwritten rules but they are clear enough for anyone wanting to try FWB. Here are the rules:

Be clear at the start

Have you colored your relationship with sex since the beginning of your introduction? There's nothing wrong with discussing it with him about your relationship status which is only limited to FWB. If both parties agree, you can still meet and give each other benefits to satisfy desires in the future.

What's the difference with a one night stand (ONS)? As the term suggests, ONS is simply an overnight relationship. Generally, ONS couples don't see each other after that night. This FWB can be more long term. However, the aim was clearly just to have fun.

Know the boundaries of the FWB relationship

For those who are still laymen, they may be confused about how this kind of relationship can be lived. You must first know about the boundaries in this relationship. The main thing is not using feelings, no interest in dating, not having to chat every day, and being able to contact each other if you want to find a bed partner.

Not a monogamous relationship

Besides there is no clear status, remember that FWB is not a monogamous relationship. This means that he has the right to have similar relationships with many people, as well as with you. Generally, one person can have many FBW partners. So actually there is nothing special about everyone because their position is easily replaceable.

Don't use feelings

For those of you who get carried away easily when dealing with the opposite sex, you will not get along with FWB. Because, here feelings such as affection, love, care, and the like are not needed. Your FWB friends just need someone to make love to. If you can't, he has lots of other friends. When you use feelings, you are the one who hurts yourself.

Don't be jealous

As mentioned earlier, that is not a monogamous relationship. He has the right to do anything with his private life without your knowledge, for example going out with other women, having a serious partner, even getting married. Remind yourself that you are not an official partner, so you have no right to be jealous, especially to forbid.