Is It Good To Exchange Device Passwords In Coupled Relations?

Illustration whether it's good to exchange device passwords in a pairwise (Freepic) relationship

YOGYAKARTA "Respecting privacy does not mean having to exchange gadget passwords in a pair relationship. Because it turns out that there are privacy and confidentiality limits in pairwise relations, trust that must always be built, and level of commitment.

Research shows 67 percent of people in committed relationships have shared their online account passwords with their partners. A total of 11 percent of couples share social media profiles and 27 percent of couples share email accounts. Data from Malwarebytes reported by Psychology Today, Wednesday, July 17, also shows that half of couples share their location with their partners as a means to tell each other their respective locations. What is the effect of the escape of this privacy limit in a couple relationship?

The couple, who exchanged passwords with their partner, may be following the principle of openness. But keep in mind, according to psychotherapist April Eldemire, LMFT., in an respectful adult relationship you don't have to prove trust by sharing every password in a digital account.

The cause of sharing one or two social media account passwords, for example, could be due to reduced trust. In fact, this is unhealthy for any relationship, and can quickly lead to a destructive situation.

Exchange passwords is actually not the right of everyone in pairs. Especially for the purpose of monitoring every movement of their partner. Couples who insist that they should know everything are possible to exchange passwords as a form of control that can come from their unsafe feelings. Someone who submits to this request, has no space to think alone, privacy, and aspects of personal life.

Well, the boundaries between privacy and a partner relationship are very important to understand. If you don't keep a secret or hide something that can harm your partner, it shouldn't be a problem exchanging passwords. But on the contrary, if you keep something that worries your partner, it might feel insecure if you have to share a password.

According to Eldemire, keeping secrets from a partner can damage the stability of partnerships. That means personal accountability is the most important thing. So pay close attention to what you consider privacy and you need to keep it a secret from your partner but not shake the stability of the partnership.

Eldemire's advice to navigate conflicts around privacy ethics and passwords, speak openly with your partner about several things. Including views on gadgets and privacy, boundaries, and expectations. Respect each other's feelings and never establish a 'trust' must be proven by endangering one's privacy.