Reasons Why Love Bombing Is Dangerous And Knows Its Characteristics

Illustration of the reasons why love bombing is dangerous (Freepik/stockking)

YOGYAKARTA Love bombing is excessive attention and affection with a certain meaning. Even though it is shrouded in love, love, and attention. Health experts explain that these feelings can be used as they shouldn't be. That's why love bombing can be dangerous.

The reason why it is dangerous, given attention and affection, of course, makes you complacent. Sometimes detrimental mistakes can be counted evenly because they are exchanged for expressions of continuous love. What makes it dangerous is that love bombing actors can control you. Launching VerywellMind, Thursday, June 6, love bombing often occurs at the beginning of a relationship.

In the early stages of the relationship, the couple got to know each other. At first, they considered new people as charming and caring. He praised it excessively and seemed to be emotionally bound. Love bombing occurs during vulnerable times. For example, when your partner apologizes or covers up mistakes. Like by giving gifts, buying seven dozen pieces of dignity, and others.

Love bombing, generally occurs in three stages or phases. Namely idealization, devaluation, and disposal. The idealization stage, the general sign of a person making love bombing is not half-hearted. The devaluation stage, a sign of an instant to be good then red-angle or a mood swing occurs. They are smart enough to show affection in public so that other people think they are great, but can turn into rude, especially personally.

The last phase, or the discard phase, is usually when the love bombing actors get confrontation, they will cut off or end the relationship. According to research results, empirically, the love bombing actors have a correlation with disability and an unsafe or insecure attachment style.

Someone who receives love bombing treatment may not be aware of it firsthand. To identify whether it's love bombing or sincere love, it can be recognized from how it is felt. Because it rains love and love has a purpose, in the context of love bombing, it can be recognized when it feels binding, it must compensate for bad treatment, fear of separation, fear of being abandoned, or want to be seen as a hero.

According to Dr. Amy E. Keller, PsyD., MFT., in a loving relationship, a person is allowed to discuss changes in mind, ask for time, and share his fears and concerns with his partner. That way, not one person from a partner dominates and launches a love bombing behavior but can find a solution together.