8 Behaviors That Make Others Stay Away

Illustration of behavior that keeps other people away (Freepic)

YOGYAKARTA Many people stay away or stay away from their partners or friends because they feel unsuitable, there is an unfinished conflict, or experience a crisis after a storm. Like the environment, the depletion of independence, and others. But according to a relationship therapist and clinical psychologist Randi Gunther, Ph.D., there are characteristics of personality and fundamental behavior that tend to keep others away. What are the behaviors that keep others away? This is Gunther's presentation.

Anger is constantly tolerated by others. Others sometimes agree but sometimes also expand the problem instead of solving it. Anger is sometimes a cover of Helplessness and causes poison in the relationship. Anger, often irreversible. A person who can't manage his anger emotions, transmits Helplessness to his partner and makes his partner move away.

People who always feel pressured, never behave casually. They think that later something bad will happen, so they always anticipate. Those who do not realize what is happening at this time, cannot focus on their lives and are shrouded in fear, urgency, and lack of relaxation.

Someone who is easily annoyed and reactive when something doesn't go as expected, it's hard to make other people comfortable with you. Because other people think that attitude reduces joy.

Repeating or remembering sad moments over and over again, will not be healthy mentally. It also affects relationships with others. People who are obsessive about getting things done, are usually busy looking for without getting new information that stops the negative cycle.

There is no successful way to deal with someone who always makes other people wait except away. They usually make you feel bad if you want to punish them. This is the reason why someone prefers to stay away because it makes them often wait.

People who are consistent with what is said will certainly be liked by many people. Unlike people who do not respect other people or cannot be trusted. Maybe you once or two can't keep your promises because there are more important matters. But if you are too often inconsistent, keep others away.

Someone who is paranoid because they are used, often gets bad results. The reason is, they don't feel that other people deserve their kindness. It's also what makes other people reluctant to make friends or have longer relationships with that person.

Small ridicule may get closer to the relationship. But always mocking, it also won't make other people who make friends with you feel comfortable. The level of ridicule is important to be measured and issued at the right time. Jokes are also considered disrespectful when other people who receive them are in a state of need of support.

Those are eight behaviors that keep others away. Launching Psychology Today, according to Gunther, everyone has different emotional and physical burdens. So reading the situation must be done so that it is easy to interact and relationships with others remain fun.