Suspicious And Bad Thinking To The Partner, Is It Reasonable? Here's The Expert's Explanation

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JAKARTA - Suspicion can be present in everyone's mind. Every now and then, according to the expert, it's natural. But do you often feel that your partner will definitely leave you? Wait, quoting a psychologist's review, there are three common things that trigger insecure feelings.

Reporting from Psychology Today, Monday, March 8, Melanie Greenberg, Ph.D. explains the triggers for feelings of suspicion and insecurity. First, experiencing failure or rejection before long from a sense of insecure is present.

Every event that goes through affects our mood and even how we feel about ourselves. One study found that as much as 40 percent of a person's happiness levels are influenced by 'recent' events.

If you have recently experienced an unpleasant event, especially ones related to failure, feeling worthless, and experiencing rejection, then it has a big impact on triggering suspicion and feeling less happy.

Second, lack of confidence in social situations, for example when there are family events and they are afraid of being evaluated by others. The effect is, a person chooses to close himself off and is not socially related. What is underlined is criticism and self-confidence.

This is why someone needs to have sufficient self-confidence when it comes to social and romantic relationships. These two relations are related to each other, if in one part it is lacking, it can cause rot in other parts.

To sabotage suspicion and bad thinking to your partner, explore your abilities. That someone who is insecure feels bad when the reality is not always as bad as thought.

Third, insecure can be triggered by perfectionism. Many people have standards and guidelines that are so high that they sometimes go beyond their limits. Who doesn't want to have a loyal partner full of love, have a luxurious home, a brilliant career, a happy household, and other ideal things?

But behind every hope, there is something that does not match reality. Difficulty accepting the reality that is happening makes the work even more extra and will sprout disappointment.

If you continue to feel disappointed and blame yourself for being imperfect, you will begin to feel suspicious and worthless. Advice from Greenberg, try to evaluate yourself based on how much effort has been made.

Instead of being suspicious and thinking badly about your partner, the two of you can open up to each other, communicate intensely, try to focus on building emotional bonds, and quality relationships with your partner.