YOGYAKARTA While the house is busy being visited by guests, for shy children, he prefers to lock himself up in the room. They avoid being involved in conversations in the living room. This is because they are not good at socialization skills. Therefore, they are dubbed shy children. According to counseling and psychotherapist handle C. Vaughan, LMFT., Ph.D., children have different ways of socializing. For shy children, they do different ways too.

For example, children are socially connected to social media that can not always be realized in real life. Obviously Vaughan is more in-depth, whatever we don't do regularly causes anxiety.

So the fewer children meet face to face in relation to social relations, the more anxious and embarrassed they will meet in person, either peers or relatives and family. That doesn't mean they don't have the ability, just lack of training. To help children are confident, here's Vaughan's advice that parents need to do.

Your child is responsible for one or two homeworks. This will help keep the family alive and emphasize the important roles of each. Children benefit from achieving their duties. They will also feel valuable because they play a role in the family.

Involving children in making decisions shows that you respect their ideas and ideas. Launching the mggRelationship, Tuesday, April 9, Vaughan said, try to involve as many children as possible in making family decisions. That way children increasingly believe their point of view is important and tends to continue to speak up.

Differences often cause anxiety in children. But if it is appreciated and given attention, it can be a source of pride. Instead of explaining differences, encourage children to share with you and show that you are proud of their talents, traits, and interests.

Children are increasingly confident in their abilities when they are more independent. So encourage them to try new experiences according to their development. For example, ordering your own food in a restaurant, preparing simple meals, or doing homework independently.

Achievements and failures to mark the process children are doing. Children whose parents emphasize hard work compared to specific results, will experience greater pleasure in their efforts and resilience when their efforts are fruitless. While parents who are only oriented towards results often make children afraid to take difficult tasks for fear of disappointing.

That's the fifth way to increase self-confidence for shy children. With sufficient confidence, their social skills will increase. Of course with the supervision, teaching, and assistance of their parents.


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