Causes Children Like To Complain And Actions That Parents Need To Do

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JAKARTA - Complaining is an act of reporting the behavior or actions of someone who violates the rules. Usually to get the person in trouble and/or ask for attention. When a child complains, it is clear that he likes to share the news and hopes that the person will be punished.

But if your child tells parents or other adults about something that hurts his heart or can harm him, it's not a complaint. This helps or prevents him from getting hurt.

Children can complain for various reasons. For example, school-age children learn more about regulations and what it means to break regulations. He develops morals, understands differences between right and wrong, and is very interested in what is fair and not. So when he sees someone doing something wrong, he may feel compelled to tell.

Another reason the child likes to complain is because he wants to be seen as good by his parents, teachers, or people around him. Or it could be because he thinks there is a reward that will be obtained by submitting a complaint.

In the family sphere, children can be motivated to complain because of jealousy or competition, for example between siblings. In such situations, the child will complain to look superior to his brother or sister.

Early childhood children can be said to be still less skilled at negotiating and managing conflicts. If you feel you are not fair to him, then he wants you to interfere. Encourage your child to solve his own problems in order to develop problem solving skills. While showing him how to build a loving intimate relationship with you.

One way to prevent children from complaining is to look at the reasons behind their actions. For example, if a child has problems with his brother, you can teach him how to solve the conflict.

If he complains to get attention, you can help teach your child to pay attention in a more effective way. In addition, help him understand how complaints can hurt others.

Eliminating the nature of pitting the child gently encourages him to think about the consequences of his actions. Ask how he would feel if he was the one being pitted on. This question helps increase empathy and teaches children why complaining can upset or hurt others.

Another effective way to prevent children from complaining is to give their children some tools to help them learn how to solve some of their own problems. If he has problems with classmates who don't want to share. You can teach him to negotiate, take turns, and ask him what he needs in a firm way, but not confrontatively.

If the child fights with his brother and hurts his feelings, tell the child to convey it politely but firmly to his brother in order to respect him. Then, guide your children into a positive brotherhood relationship. Instead of interfering every time the child complains, guide the child to find out how to deal with the conflict independently before intervening.

Finally, try to look at the positive side of the child's desire to supervise people who violate the rules. Knowing what others are allowed and should not do means that children are also studying the regulations. Complaining is the way he says he knows which is right and wrong.