JAKARTA - Taking care of children is a challenge every day, especially for parents whose children suffer from ADHD plus extreme emotional reactions. The task of parenting certainly feels much heavier.
But, did you know the latest research shows that positive parenting can bring major changes to children's development with ADHD. This study took samples of parents from preschoolers with ADHD. Then study children's physical responses such as heart rate and behavioral and emotional response to positive and negative parenting.
The researchers found that when children were told gently, instead of screaming and criticizing, they could breathe slower and calmer. From here, Michael Manos of Cleveland Clinic, Ph.D., launched the Cleveland Clinic, Friday, August 11, saying that negative parenting can also have a negative impact on children.
He said using negative parenting strategies such as physical punishment, shouting, using threats, and ultimatums usually results in children trying to avoid their parents. Because parents are considered as 'criminals' agents. Not only that, negative parenting can also cause children to become counter-aggressive.
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If children are constantly criticized, treated like enemies, and get negative treatment as applied to negative parenting. Children will tend to avoid parents or show disobedient behavior, said Dr. Manos.
"The effects seem disobedient and counterattacking, very common in children. Not because of their congenital characteristics, but because of the quality of interaction between children and parents," he explained.
Dr. Manos says children learn to regulate themselves more effectively when parents use a positive approach. And this applies to all children, not just them with ADHD.
When parents feel that their child's behavior is starting to get annoying, the first thing they have to do before responding to behavior with negative reactions such as shouting, hitting, or threatening is to ask the child what he felt at that time. According to Dr. Manos, the best strategy is to ask the child to describe his feelings.
Use a simple descriptive statement in helping children express their feelings. Give full control and flexibility to children for this," explained Dr. Manos.
Knowing the child's feelings can help parents see a bigger picture of children, so that good and harmonious relationships can be established.
This is very useful because you are not only trying to regulate your child's behavior, but also building a relationship that will last a lifetime.
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