"Ampuh Untuk Berelasi Dengan Orang Lain," Kata Pakar: Mutual Eye Contact

Illustration of eye contact to interact with other people (Freepik/drobotdean)

YOGYAKARTA Mutual eye contact is not a simple thing. By throwing eyes, someone's presence is felt by others. As the saying is known that eye is a window of soul', as is the awkwardness, nervousness, and even respect radiated through the eyes.

Even in silence, or just talking through gaze, one can communicate with each other. According to the professor of journalism and behavioral specialist, Gregg Levoy, the people who sit face to face and exchange eye contact, they are talking to each other.

Animals also do the same thing, continuous eye contact is often a form of aggression, domination, and even threats. Sometimes we also think that staring into the eye of the speech is disrespectful. But have you ever felt that eye contact is cut off when words stop or stop? Or when you feel afraid and bow your head reluctant to look into your eyes? For people who lie, staring at your eyes is also a very big challenge.

In contrast to the mother-child bond and a pair of people who are in love, continuous eye contact means they are paying attention to each other and want to be connected. There are also differences between Eastern people, including in Indonesia, and Europeans and Americans who are more assertive about their eyes. neurologically, eye contact tends to increase stress in people with autism, social anxiety, and Kindergarten.

Research shows that foreigners and romantic couples will feel closer, more confident, and more empathetic to each other after deep gazes. Launching Psychology Today, Monday, July 3, some evidence suggests that old eye contact can help two neural systems connect, spurring the release of oxytocin and feniletilamins that are considered demics of love'.

With eye contact, we prepare various mental states with other people, creating a form called entrainment. The process of entrainment occurs where individuals synchronize their movements with others, bringing a very satisfying experience. Each profession calls this process in a different way. When musicians call it a groove, the army mentions a key step, while lovers call it in the same wave. Entrainment talks about playing a force field, a correspondence that is generated between and among people without a word being spoken.

A physicist, David Bohm, dialogue is a flow of meaning that flows through and among people, and that flow should not be in the form of words. However, since the purpose of communicating is to pave the way for silence from each other's eye contact, it seems that 'presence' requires words as validation.