Dear Father, Proper Support Can Prevent Mother Nature From Burning Out

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JAKARTA - Child care often makes Mother burnout or chronic fatigue physically, emotionally, and mentally. The father's involvement can prevent burnout.

Psychologist Grace E. Samave shares tips for parents so that they can provide proper support and can prevent mothers from experiencing burnout in terms of parenting.

"The first step is to prevent mother burnout, father can be present in full and increase attention when mother is raising children," Grace was quoted as saying.

The presence referred to in the first tip is not limited to physical presence but includes up to emotional.

Even if necessary, father really pays attention to his mother and children by not holding gadgets when they are together.

Thus, the emotional burden borne by mothers can be reduced and prevent chronic fatigue.

The second tip is that the father must take the initiative and be alert to observe the needs of his mother.

For example, when mother is in trouble raising children, father can be present and ask if mother needs anything else to help her more comfortably.

"After observing the problems that mother is facing, father can help by providing practical solutions. For example, mothers are busy caring for children but have to wash clothes, so father can help mothers to wash clothes," said Grace.

Furthermore, when the father and mother are in a state of freeness, it is better to do two-way communication that is relaxed regarding parenting.

Listen to your mother's expectations and adjust the perception together so that the burden borne is not only obtained by one party but faced together.

Finally, Grace reminded that father should also be able to maintain a balance of his physical and mental health so that burnout conditions do not need to be experienced by both his mother and father.

In a survey conducted by Lean In and McKinsey & Company in 2021, it shows that women who in this case play the role of mothers are easier to burn out than men.

Dungkap dalam laporan tersebut bahwa wanita lebih mudah terkena burnout karena selain harus mengunggup pekerjaan di kantor, juga harus melakukan pemelihanan untuk anaknya.

It is the same as doing two different jobs but happening at the same time. Therefore, the role of father becomes very important to prevent and avoid the occurrence of "burnouts" on his mother.