5 Signs Of Small Age Trauma Have Not Been Healed, Can Be Seen From This Behavior

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JAKARTA - You may think that the unpleasant events that have happened in life now are nothing more than mere memories. But maybe not necessarily others agree with your thoughts.

Memories of unpleasant events can trigger the emergence of trauma in a person and if the trauma is not handled properly. It will have a bad effect on a person's life.

Here are five signs of behavior caused by childhood trauma that have not been cured to adulthood. Launch Psychology Today, Tuesday, December 20.

Children who struggle to get attention at a young age understand that in order to get this attention, they need to make others happy. From an early age, they learned how to involve people to be happy with them in order to avoid emotional pain if they are not liked or scolded by people.

If you tend to be a perfectionist at this time, there may be childhood trauma that has not been cured. It could be that when you are a child you are always directed by parents to make no mistakes. So you are less familiar with how to overcome failure and be a perfectionist is the right choice.

Often comparing yourself to other people when you grow up is also a sign of past trauma that has not been lost. This is closely related to low self-esteem. Maybe as a child, you are often compared to siblings or peers. So you feel you are never comparable to other people.

This is often caused by fear of being close to other people because you are afraid of being hurt. This can happen because when you were little you were often hurt or left behind by your parents. So you try to avoid other people from being hurt when you grow up.

Just like those who avoid relationships to avoid emotional pain, those who often change their partners often try to fill the voids left over from previous wounds. This behavior is done to prove that you can be loved and valuable in a relationship.