YOGYAKARTA Communication skills describe a person's confidence. For introvert confidence may not be a problem. But when opening a conversation with an aggressive and energy-intensive person, it will overwhelm introverts. Professor and author of Communication Success with Four Personal Types, Preston Ni, provides tips for introverts when opening one-on-one conversations confidently.

A excerpt of a sentence from Dale Carnegie, Show an interest in others, and others will show interest in you. This is a way to open conversations comfortably. those of you who are introverted can show interest in your interlocutor. Ask questions about what they are interested in. For example, What's new to your area?

To continue the conversation, simply select the information your conversation partners share. Then ask more in-depth questions about it. Every now and then, give a response that describes your interests.

If you hesitate to make a statement or question, this will hinder the conversation. The awkward atmosphere suddenly feels stronger than the desire to extend the conversation. If you have doubts, Preston advises, get rid of pressure from yourself. Be more agile by asking questions that make you hesitate. For example, I'm not sure about this yet, but...

As mentioned above, an awkward situation will not make the conversation feel comfortable. That is, try to let your partner know that you need to think for a while. According to Preston, as people are extroverted, it may not always be easy to enjoy the period of silence. But by telling your interlocutor, that you need time to think for a moment, it will be easier for each of you to position yourself.

Long conversations may be tiring, but you can take a break with permission to go to the bathroom, for example. Or ask permission to do other more reasonable activities and will come back later whenever possible.

During breaks, take a moment to surround yourself introverted by yourself. Take a long breath will help a little.

When the conversation is about to be resolved, let your interlocutor know if you need to do something else. Or make an agreement according to the time limit. Psychologically, preparing others to close may be a elegant and easier way. But measuring your energy is the most important step.


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