5 Errors That Are Often Made In Love Relations

Illustration of mistakes in a romantic relationship (Freepik/Wayhomestudio)

YOGYAKARTA Beautiful stories about love often live up and make you forget when it comes to reality. Many couples depend on their partners for happy love stories. Not a few aspects of a committed relationship are forgotten.

Do you still dream often or depend on the happiness of a love story with your partner? So know, these five things are often done and make the relationship not as comfortable as expected.

Listening to each other is an important key for happy couples. People are often honest at the beginning of their relationship about what they think and may be a problem. For example, a background that is not suitable or not ready to get married. However, we tend not to listen. This is what is often forgotten, you and your partner need to listen together. What is being heard? Everything, including thoughts and feelings that may not want to be heard. Or a reality that sometimes doesn't match expectations, but is real.

People change not because of other people, even though it can happen. However, they will return to their true nature. It should be understood that change has nothing to do with love. Trusting a partner will change because of love, often escapes. It's better to believe in your partner and give a chance if he really wants to change.

When expecting others to change for us, then believe in being happy because of it, is an illusion of the relationship. Happiness is a responsibility of oneself. That is, every couple needs to be flexible with what is needed and their respective roles. The goal is to build happiness together.

Being yourself, will be more comfortable than changing in order to get love from your partner. If you still put up a 'topep' to make someone love you, try to realize it immediately. Because this doesn't make you feel loved, it's the other way around. Launching PsychCentral, Friday, September 9, take the time to find who we really are, what we really want, and learn to love ourselves.

We often see relationships based only on what is ideal but a distance from reality. For example, romantic relationships, monogamy, always happy all the time, and don't have many problems. Well, this illustrates that a romantic relationship is not the same as a beautiful story in fantasy.

Instead of doing the five things above, it's better to pay attention to what you and your partner want. By listening to each other and communicating in a healthy way, your partner can be honest with each other.