To Not Be Offended, Here Are 5 How To Face Negative Comments

Illustration of how not to be easily offended by negative comments (Freepik/Benzoix)

YOGYAKARTA Not every negative comment from others, including in your circle of friends, needs to be put in the heart. There is no need to be hostile or stay away. Because, feeling sorry for others is a way for ourselves, says a psychologist who handles children, adolescents, and adults with anxiety disorders, Tamara Chansky, Ph.D.

Others may not realize that words that have come out cannot be withdrawn. Maybe often makes people around him feel offended, think his words are harsh, painful, or seem offensive.

Although emotionally controllable, but the body still reacts. The body will refuse to be in the same room as others that makes you, for example, offended. Which in the end makes you restless, unfocused, and tense. Chansky's advice is reported by Psychology Today, this is how you practice not to "take it" other people's comments.

If you can, change your response to being offended, painful, insinuated, or accused of being a more neutral label. The second label, consider other people who provide comments are tired, there are problems, or feel threatened. That way, you can interpret events experienced more accurately.

Having lots of choices for the next activity will be better. Because the more we interpret that your friend is aware of his words, it won't be good for you. So, understand that you have no problem with other people's comments and continue to work with love.

Maybe this is often said to ignore or underestimate other people. However, it means to open a broader perspective instead of getting information from the wrong source. Considering the source, which is meant to explore motifs, history, experience, bias, and moods of the person who commented on you.

If only because of comments produces hostility, then what's the point in doing it for yourself. Maybe this way takes time, but the first person to accept compassion is yourself. That way, you won't be easily frustrated with other people's comments.

Judicial behavior can make the situation not clearer but even more cloudy. Not judging is a way to help yourself not be affected by other people's behavior. That is, helping us feel better, can also stop the overreaction.

In fact, Chansky explained, we don't know why people do what they do. But when we don't feel attacked, then we don't have to feel offended.