Get To Know The Term Love Bombing And Its Impact On Love Relationships

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JAKARTA - At first, love bombing will look fun, where your partner will give more attention and affection, such as always giving compliments, sending flowers, food, and others. Until you realize your relationship is starting to change.

Anyone may do love bombing, but according to Ami Kaplan, reported by HighEnd, Tuesday, August 23, a psychotherapist in NYC, usually those who do this are those who suffer from symptoms of narcissistic personality disorder.

Kaplan said love bombing is an unconscious behavior. At first the perpetrator will pamper his partner with love until he finally feels he has control over the person. That's when the perpetrator can change drastically into rude and manipulative.

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The narcissistic partner will ignore your needs because he is more focused on his own needs. Narcissistic partners love to over-praise. He knows when to give compliments. Likes to share affection in public and social media, but not when alone with you. A narcissistic partner does not hesitate to bring up his goodness and how much sacrifice he has made for you. This he does so that you want to repay his services. Narcissistic partners want to always be given reassurance. If you don't answer the phone or text him back, he'll get angry and threaten. You begin to feel afraid and uncomfortable when you are with a narcissistic partner. He often blames you so that if a problem arises as if it was your fault. You are prone to depression or anxiety as a result of emotional abuse. The narcissistic partner tries to keep you away from family and relatives so that the partner will only rely on him.

People in these relationships usually fall into a cycle of abuse. When you begin to feel indebted to him, he will feel he is gaining control over you. Not only does he gain control over your mind and heart, but his ego increases. Usually, after this phase, he no longer uses you but begins to withdraw from the relationship.

The abuser feels that when he has control over you, he can leave the relationship at will and come back whenever he wants. At this stage too, rudeness such as hurling insults, negative comments, and other things that aim to make you question your self-worth begins to occur.

For this reason, it is important to note that when you are at the beginning of a relationship and feel that everything is happening very quickly, try checking again. Falling in love should be something you can enjoy and not rush.