In Order To Be A Tough Teenager, Parents Need To Teach These 4 Things

Illustration of how parents educate their teenagers to be tough (Freepik/Kalyukav)

JAKARTA – Regarding the resilience of a child, mental resilience needs to be built from an early age. In order not to give up easily because of stress and be able to manage negative emotions appropriately, parents need to teach many things.

Reported by Psychology Today, raising children to be strong individuals can be with the right parenting. Resilience or described by the term resilience, is the ability to recover from or adapt easily to stress, challenges, and unexpected situations.

Although parents cannot create a life without stress, they can nurture and raise strong children. Here, a guide from Amy Mezulis, Ph.D. a professor of clinical psychology at Seattle Pacific University.

1. Manage stress response in real time

No one is effective at solving problems when upset. So, Mezulis suggested, one needs to calm down first. Some strategies for calming emotions right away are to take deep breaths and then schedule time to revisit the problem after a break.

To help teens manage their stress response, parents can validate their experiences. Provide suggestions and time off before discussing them when they are ready.

Illustration of how parents educate their teenagers to be tough (Unsplash/Sofatutor)

2. Framing thoughts

Negative thought patterns often interfere with someone in finding effective problem solving. Often, changing your thinking can actually help solve problems. This means that you need to reframe your thinking to recognize how to develop yourself, separate emotions from facts, and control your reactions. Parents can educate children to be more resilient, by reframing negative thought patterns to find positive solutions.

3. Focus on what you can control

A person is often trapped in the desire to control everything, including beyond his capacity. You can teach your child to control emotions, reactions, how to treat others, work ethic, values-based actions, and situations that can be handled.

Mezulis says focusing on what can be controlled has to do with finding the right boundaries. Which can be completed according to capacity and not. By recognizing boundaries, problems will appear lighter and help children to commit to positive choices within their capacities.

4. Build a support system

The final step according to Mezulis' recommendation, self-resilience can be developed when getting a support system. The help of others and a collaborative process will alleviate a major problem. Simply put, children know who to talk to when they need support.

Those are four things you and your baby can do in the process together to become strong individuals.