Why Is The Content Of Oki Setiana Dewi's Lecture Considered Normalizing Domestic Violence?

Oki Setiana Dewi

JAKARTA - A snippet of Oki Setiana Dewi's lecture went viral and was filled with criticism from netizens. In his lecture, Oki discussed the virtue of a wife being obedient to her husband even when beaten.

"So there was a husband and wife in Jeddah having a fight, her husband at that time was so angry with his wife that his wife was hit in the face. His wife was crying at that time. Then soon the doorbell rang and the wife immediately opened the door, from a distance what appeared to be mother from the wife," said Oki.

"When I saw who came the husband was very nervous in his heart he was very afraid, oh God this my wife must have complained to my in-laws because she was slapped with me. After meeting her mother, the mother asked her son, O my son, why are you crying? Immediately the child replied, "Oh God, mother, I prayed to God, I miss mom and dad, uh, I know God immediately answered my prayer, I was more moved until I cried when I met mom and dad," he continued.

"Her husband from a distance saw and heard what his wife said, he was shocked, even though his wife could have complained about what had just happened to her, that there was domestic violence in this house recently. She could have complained if I just hit her." "Sometimes women like to be silly, so they exaggerate the story. It doesn't match the reality when you're upset about the story," he said.

"Hearing that statement, the husband's heart immediately melted, oh God, his wife saved my disgrace. So there is no need to tell the disgrace that if we make badmouthing about our own partner," concluded Oki.

Regarding this statement, netizens were immediately furious. Oki was also criticized by social media activists Permadi Arya alias Abu Janda. They immediately stormed Oki Setiana Dewi's Instagram comment column.

"Covering the husband's disgrace is not covering the domestic violence from other people. Get help sis imagine how many women suffering from abusive relationship and endure all the pain just to be obligated to their husband," explained the titi **** account.

There are at least two reasons why Oki's lecture is called normalizing domestic violence. First, accept the husband's beating as a matter of course. Second, cover up domestic violence to mention disgrace that does not need to be conveyed to others, including parents.

"There are 2 different things that are disgraceful: for example, your husband has warts on his pa***, his mouth smells bad, then you tell him ~> disgrace -> sin... cover up domestic violence: dude, cmon! That's not a disgrace, it's a crime, period!! !" explain kieu *** account.

"Totally agree, sis, it makes the victims of domestic violence more and more unwilling to speak up. I'm surprised by this cleric," said the sara *** account.

"Sorry, Sis, please explain first, what does the lecture mean? What if the husband slaps the wife, you can't report it to your parents because it's a disgrace? Please explain," explained the jeu **** account.

VOI tried to ask Oki Setiana Dewi for confirmation on this matter but no response yet.