So That It's Not Easy To Get Frustrated, Here Are 10 Ways To Increase Emotional Intelligence

Illustration of how to increase emotional intelligence (Unsplash/Toa Heftiba)

JAKARTA – Baper or carried away is a term for conditions that are easily influenced by feelings. Not just feelings related to romance, romance or love, but feelings in a holistic sense. For example, when a person has high sensitivity, he will be easily carried away or controlled by feelings.

Emotional intelligence, reported by Inc., Friday, January 21, is the intelligence of making emotions work for you, not driving your behavior and responses to events or objects. For example, when you feel very happy, you agree on a lot of things. By having emotional intelligence, a person is not easily frustrated and controlled by feelings.

It's not that people with emotional intelligence put their feelings aside. But balance it so that you have better control of yourself and lead to better relationships with others. As important as emotional intelligence is, here are ways you can do it if your feelings are heavier than a healthy response.

1. Thinking about handling the situation

Have you ever made a mistake but didn't think about the risks? Instead of letting yourself sink into regret and self-pity or even justification, take some time to think about how you would have handled the situation.

That is, it is necessary to admit mistakes first. Then think about handling a chaotic situation, for example, then resolve it as a responsibility.

Illustration of how to increase emotional intelligence (Unsplash/Daniil Lobachev)

2. Set boundaries

The first step in building emotional intelligence is to cultivate self-awareness. So know about your own emotional behavior first. This is important, because destructive choices are easier to come by without awareness.

Consciousness-based boundaries can be done. Because everyone has a different set of emotions and different needs, learning to identify 'your' is the first step to protecting your own mental and physical health.

3. Give your full attention

Devices and laptops often distract from conversation. Even consideration is often missed because it does not pay attention to it seriously. That is, giving your full attention will have a positive influence on your emotional intelligence.

4. Maintain resilience

Resilience is synonymous with resilience in the face of repeated challenging events. To deal with stress more effectively and maintain mental health, one needs to learn how to respond to failure.

When you experience failure, try to take a short break, acknowledge the feelings you are feeling, focus on what you can control, and stay strong to get back up.

5. Balance strengths and weaknesses

Everyone has strengths and weaknesses, if not weighed in a balanced way, strengths can metamorphose into weaknesses. For example, you are a very productive person, this is a strength. But if it is not balanced, then it can be a weakness because it keeps away from social life.

6. Giving and getting acknowledgment

When you do something right, you generally get recognition. Getting acknowledgment will encourage a person to continue positive behavior, build trust and psychological security, and make it easier for the person to accept constructive criticism.

7. Get used to good behavior

Good can be a relative measure, but good is generally related to habits or ways that make life better. Habits are built gradually. So to behave well, you also need to get used to it gradually. The more you see it, the more you get carried away for the better.

8. Success cannot be rushed

Great work or success cannot be done in a hurry. Try to make a schedule and be disciplined with it. For example by starting early so you can keep building, improving, and customizing.

9. Don't make decisions based on emotions

In difficult situations, one needs to make decisions quickly. However, long-term decisions can be inappropriate if they are based on temporary emotions. Big decisions, don't be made at night, after a bad day, when tired or hungry, right after a vacation, and before careful consideration.

10. Open minded

Sometimes, people need to wear new glasses to see more clearly. This is also the case for building emotional intelligence, thoughts and emotions often cloud vision and judgment. So try to be open-minded or change your perspective so you can see the problem more clearly.