According To Research, The Quality Of Good Relationships In The Family Is The Key To The Success Of Building Children's Self-esteem

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JAKARTA - Home is a place where the personality of each member is formed from scratch. Both positive and negative results, depending on the cooking process carried out by each family who lives there. One of the positive things that can be formed from home is self-esteem or self-esteem.

Launching from the Parenting page, Friday, December 3, research conducted by two psychology professors Michelle A. Harris from the University of Texas, USA and Ulrich Orth from the University of Bern, Switzerland showed that a social relationship, be it a family relationship between children and people parents or a relationship with a good partner can form self-esteem or good self-esteem. This has been proven in 13 countries, namely Australia, Belgium, Canada, China, Finland, Germany, Greece, Korea, the Netherlands, Russia, Sweden, Switzerland, and the United States, which have been studied by these two professors.

The study was conducted on more than 46,000 participants aged 4 to 77 years with 53 meta-analytical studies and was published in the Journal of Personality and Social Psychology. Participants were asked to describe the quality of their relationship with questions such as their sense of community, whether they had someone to help them, or how satisfied and secure they were with their relationship with family members.

The result, the relationship between self-esteem and social relationships is significant. "Self-esteem seems to improve the quality of our relationships, and having good social relationships seems to increase our self-esteem," Harris says. This reciprocity is equally true for men and women.

This study does not show how the relationship between relationship quality and self-esteem can be formed. However, Bella DePaulo, Ph.D., social psychologist author of How We Live Now: Redefining Home and Family in the 21st Century, says that people with high self-esteem can show more physical affection and resolve conflicts by more constructive. They also listen with greater attention and support.

It's that kind of interaction that leads to a warmer, closer, and more satisfying relationship. On the other hand, having warm, supportive, and secure social relationships provides an experience and understanding that can foster self-esteem for a person.

So, is the condition of your "home" warm enough? Do your family members give each other physical affection and resolve conflicts constructively? Do not let the mistakes of parents actually damage the child's self-esteem, OK?