How Long Is The Duration Of Ideal Sex? Here's The Expert's Explanation

Illustration of having sex. (Freepic)

JAKARTA - The duration of satisfying sex for each partner is different. However, what is sought in sex is enough time to really enjoy it.

"On average most people prefer sex to last long enough that they can actually get into it," said clinical sociologist and sexologist Sarah Melancin, PhD, quoted from Men's Health, on Friday, October 17, 2025.

However, there are several periods of time that in general can be called the ideal duration of sex, namely:

- 1 to 2 minutes is considered too short-3 to 7 minutes estimated to last 7 to 13 minutes seen as 'wanted' - 10 to 30 minutes seen as too long

Not only that, the ideal duration of the sex session also relies heavily on the people involved and the existing situation. This was conveyed by a psychotherapist and sex therapist, Lee Philips, EdD.

"If it's a night with your partner, you might want to take the time by opening a bottle of wine, then foreplay, then penetration sex," said Philips.

If all parties have fun and are satisfied, then the sex will go well and in the right duration.

"Sex is about flexibility and pleasure, not how long a person can go," added Philips.

In addition, the duration of sex is also influenced by the age and health condition of the body. Age is a factor in obtaining and maintaining an erection, where 40 percent of men will have an unreliable erection at the age of 40.