Recognizing 'Invisible Wounds': Educating on 9 Signs of Relationship Violence that are Often Overlooked

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JAKARTA - Violence in personal relationships is often a difficult issue to detect because its roots are hidden in the structure of power and cultural relations. Data shows that the majority of cases of violence against women actually occur in the personal realm. This is exacerbated by the fact that psychological violence often goes unnoticed because it does not leave physical wounds.

Psychologist from the Pulih Foundation, Agata Paskarista, explained that psychological violence is often "wrapped" in the form of excessive attention or control. "Violence can appear in the form of manipulation or jokes that are degrading, but the impact on the victim's mental health is very serious and long-term," he said.

To prevent deeper impacts, the public needs to recognize the 9 signs of violence in relationships that are often not realized as a form of violation of freedom:

Ignoring: Considering the feelings or existence of a partner is not important.

Humiliating: Insulting the ability or self-esteem of a partner.

Controlling: Restricting personal choices or freedom.

Manipulating: Twisting facts to blame the partner.

Threatening: Using fear to get compliance.

Jealousy: Blind, possessive and unhealthy jealousy.

Intrusion: Violating privacy forcibly.

Isolating: Keeping the partner away from friends or family.

Intimidating: Making a partner feel physically or mentally threatened.

The first step to breaking this chain is the courage to recognize the signs early on and stop victim-blaming. Violence is not the victim's fault, and the right support from the surrounding environment is crucial to help victims regain sovereignty over themselves.