Parents Must Read, It Turns Out That This Is An Important Reason To Validate Children's Feelings

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JAKARTA - Validating children's feelings means admitting what children were feeling at that time, whether it's happy, sad, angry, or other big emotions. Without judging, expecting, or commenting on what they should have felt.

"validating does not mean correcting, correcting, teaching, or giving advice," said Annia Palacios, a licensed professional counselor in Texas and Florida and owner of online practice, Tightrope Therapy, reported Psych Central, Monday, March 17.

Emotional validation teaches children that feeling and expressing their emotions is normal. Parents who validate their child's emotions model that it is natural to live sometimes feel hurt, afraid, or sad.

Validating children's emotions can help them develop emotional intelligence and resilience. In addition, there are four other benefits that need to be known, namely:

It can also build trust between you and your children, create greater intimacy and secure entanglement.

When you validate a child's experience, you tell them they have a safe space to talk about and process what they're going through, "said Palacios.

This security can help children develop problem-resistant skills. And learn to trust themselves as they grow up, he added.

The benefits of emotional validation can also help build emotional intelligence in children.

"Understanding self-emotion encourages healthy psychological developments by teaching children to pay attention to their emotional state," explained Kate Monahan, a developmental psychologist and educator of certified family life.

Monahan said that when emotional validation is combined with guidance and a loving conversation with parents, children can also learn handling strategies to deal with their emotions and express their feelings.

Over time, this can lead to fewer:

'Children have the same emotions as adults, [but] most children don't have verbal skills to express what they need from their parents. That's why many children behave unpleasantly,' explained Fonseca.

"The more parents and caregivers validate their child's feelings and emotions when they are angry, the less likely they are to behave badly," he continued.

Through the skills of overcoming this problem, children can build self-esteem and emotional balanced reality experiences. As well as the skills to overcome the problems they need to face difficult things.

This can help them get better. which can reduce the risk of depression and anxiety, according to research in 2016. Emotional validation can instill confidence in children to work productively through their own emotions and stay away from unhealthy or dangerous situations.