The Key To Quality Love, Here Are 6 Ways To Present The Best Version Of Yourself In Love Relations

JAKARTA - In a relationship, whether dating, engagement, or marriage, you are often tempted to wait for your partner to change first so that everything is happy.

However, as revealed by psychologist Kristin M. DAvin, Psy.D., launching Marriage, Thursday, December 4, the true key to a healthy relationship lies in self-employment to "come as the best version of yourself."

Bringing the best version of yourself into a relationship begins with the courage to accept and sort out 'personal affairs' including habits, emotional reactions, and the way you face difficult situations. By sorting out and overcoming self-imperfections, you make room for relationships to grow without being burdened with unrealistic expectations.

Furthermore, emotional intelligence (EQ) becomes an important asset. The ability to realize one's own feelings, manage emotional reactions with adults, and absorb your partner's feelings enable honest and respectful communication. With EQ, conflict is not a threat but a place to understand each other and develop together.

Often you are 'triggered' by small things such as comments, habits, or spontaneous reactions. Identifying these triggers helps you understand the origin of conflict and prevents it from developing into big problems. With this awareness, we are better able to choose how to respond than to react impulsively.

Communication has also become more than just talking: getting used to the 'soft start-up' choosing the right time to talk, listening with care, and giving space for couples to share building emotional intimacy. Diverting attention from gadgets and other things to really come together is a tangible manifestation of respecting your partner.

However, no less important, keep being curious. Ask again about the day, his dream, the little thing that makes him happy as when you just got to know each other. The attitude of wanting to continue to know and understand your partner keeps the sparks of togetherness alive and deepens closeness.

Finally, don't be afraid to demand more, not as a coercive demand, but as a commitment to continue to develop together, such as giving more than yesterday, supporting each other to grow, and not quickly feeling satisfied with the status quo. A healthy relationship is a relationship where the two people continue to process into the best version of themselves.

By applying these six principles, realizing and improving oneself, increasing emotional intelligence, recognizing negative triggers, communicating with full awareness, maintaining curiosity towards your partner, and committing to continuing to develop, one not only gives the best gift to a partner, but also builds a foundation for mature, respectful, and longstanding relationships.