How To Calm The Tantrum Children With 7 Magic Sentences

JAKARTA - Facing children tantrums is a challenge for all parents. Crying, screaming, or emotional outbursts can make the day feel heavy and stressful. However, a psychologist and expert on parenting, Reem Raouda, finds an effective way to deal with these difficult moments through calming and validating children's feelings.

Based on research on more than 200 children and their own practices, Reem found parents who were experts in dealing with tantrums using words that gave them a sense of security, not just punishment or threats.

Here are 7 magic sentences that can be tried, as reported by the CNBC page.

1. You're feeling big emotions. I'm here.

Instead of forcing children to stop crying, this sentence helps them feel accompanied. Children learn that their emotions are normal and they are not alone, making it easier to calm down.

2. I believe in you.

Instead of saying 'You're too late, it doesn't matter,' this sentence gives validation. Children who feel they are believed to be calmer because they don't need to struggle to be understood.

3. How come you feel like that.

This sentence helps children understand and organize their emotions. When children feel their feelings are normal, they are better able to get through emotions without having to explode or press them.

4. 'I'm not angry, I want to help you through this.'

Expressing support is more effective than anger. Children who do not feel threatened can focus on calming down rather than staying or fighting back.

5. 'You can be angry, but don't worry about yourself or other people.'

This sentence teaches boundaries with empathy. Children learn that all emotions may arise, but there are actions that are not allowed.

6. Take your life first, I'll stay here.

Instead of forcing children to calm down quickly, let them process their emotions. Children who are not in a hurry will calm down more quickly.

7. We get through this together.

This sentence gives a sense of security. Children know their parents still support whatever happens. Support like this helps children are confident in facing challenges in the future.

Secrets of dealing with tantrums are not with control or punishment, but with connections. Instead of dealing with children's emotions, parents help them feel safe to process them.

Not every tantrum can disappear immediately, but the use of these sentences plants important foundations. Children who believe in their own emotions, feel supported and know that parental love is not lost despite difficult circumstances.