The IDR 10 Thousand Trend In The Right Hands Of The Wife: A Form Of Creativity Or Romanticization Of Financial Violence?

JAKARTA The trend of Rp. 10,000 in the hands of the right wife has recently been widely discussed on social media. Some call this a joke, but for some it is a social reflection in the midst of a difficult economy.

In recent weeks, the content of the IDR 10,000 trend in the hands of the right wife has gone viral on social media. Many housewives distribute groceries with a value of less than IDR 10,000 to eat a day.

Initially, this trend was only considered light entertainment, but has long been a serious comparison material in many households. In fact, not a few think that this trend reflects expectations of the role of wives in managing finances.

Of course many oppose this trend, because in today's era, Rp10 thousand is not enough to meet daily needs properly. But, not a few also say that the trend tests the wife's creativity, because the key to a harmonious household is a wife who is able to manage any money to meet her needs.

The content that has gone viral is of course a polemic. Financial planner Prita Ghozi said that the trend of Rp10 thousand in the right hands of the wife cannot be applied to everyone. In this context, said Priza, it must be adjusted to domicile, the number of family members, to the income of a family.

For some people, the content of Rp. 10,000 in the hands of the right wife can be referred to as a financial form of financial abuse or financial violence. Because, according to the Central Statistics Agency (BPS) the national poverty limit in March 2025 is Rp. 609,000 per capita per month or equivalent to around Rp. 20,305 per day.

According to Prita Gozi, by definition, from WHO, financial violence is the occurrence of control over family economic resources. This condition causes one member or victim to lose financial independence and is forced to depend on the perpetrators of financial violence.

He added that some of the characteristics of financial abuse are when there is one party that controls all of the couple's income and there is no transparency towards its use.

The next feature is prohibiting couples from earning or working so that the victim will be very financially dependent on the perpetrator, there are restrictions on access to finance.

"For example, an ATM card pin that cannot be known to a partner and is held by only one person," said Prita.

Another example that includes financial violence is hiding financial information such as there is no honesty regarding the amount of income, debt or assistance from outside parties. Then burden the victim with unfair financial responsibility.

And the context of the trend of IDR 10,000 per day is included in the last point because there is no clarity on the use of finance. Is the money used to eat 3 times a day, which city happens or which portion of food is for how many heads are in the family," he continued.

The form of financial violence is evident in the household. Based on BPS data, as many as 24.5 percent of women who have or are undergoing marriage experience financial violence from their partners.

In conditions like this, women are often forced to be creative parties to cover the financial shortage of households. Many men who use the right narration of 'wife can manage any money' just to legitimize laziness and financial inability.

In fact, this is a form of financial violence. But unfortunately, the culture in Indonesia still quite often romanticizes the suffering of women. Wives who can be economical and are 'can be invited to be difficult' get a lot of praise because this is considered a form of loyalty, instead of being the neglect of a husband as the head of a household.

Clinical psychologist from the Faculty of Psychology, Pancasila University, Putri Langka, reminded the importance of separating the real world from the world of social media.

Putri emphasized that not all trends are suitable for daily life. From a psychological perspective, the trend of Rp. 10,000 in the hands of the right wife is not a matter of nominality, but concerns feelings of justice and appreciation in a relationship.

"When a partner is compared to other figures on social media, especially by those closest to them, feelings of shame, defensiveness, and loss of security arise," he said.

Putri added that this phenomenon is considered as a toxic computer or the habit of comparing oneself with the ideal image on the screen which actually reduces trust in relationships. According to him, the impact of debate in cyberspace can be wider than seen.

For some people, the video can be just entertainment. But for those who are economically sensitive, it can cause emotional pressure. In a certain context, this can even be categorized as financial abuse due to inequality in financial control in the household," Putri explained.

Not only that, debates over the nominal value of money often have an impact on cognitive distortion, namely a wrong way of thinking due to incomplete information.

"We often forget, what is circulating on social media is opinion, not facts. In the end, many draw extreme conclusions such as, 'if so it's better not to get married', even though the context is not that simple," he said.