Sepele But Has A Bad Impact, Reflect On 6 Habits That Make You Look Selfish

YOGYAKARTA - Every day, unconsciously, we do habits that can make others think of us as individuals who think too much about ourselves. Even though your intentions are good, some small behaviors have the potential to make an unpleasant impression. So it is important to reflect on the following, habits that may be considered should be considered so that in social relationships stay harmonious and full of empathy.

You are too engrossed in telling stories about your own life. Like starting from experience, achievement, or even complaining. So many stories about yourself, you can forget to give space to other people. Although this is natural, such habits can give the impression that you don't care about what other people are experiencing or thinking. It's best to try balancing your conversation by asking questions and listening to their answer seriously.

Showing empathy is not just a matter of doing big things. Sometimes, listening to small talk or feeling sad about someone is enough. If you often fail to respond to other people's feelings or even seem indifferent, other people may think you are less able to put yourself in their position. Quoting YourTango, Thursday, September 4, it is very important to train sensitivity by trying to understand the feelings of others and taking time to arrive emotionally, not just physically.

When you often interrupt or take over topics of conversation, conversations that should be two-way can turn into one-way stage. Others can feel you are talking to them, not them. It's best, leave the break, give other people a chance to express their opinion, and show that you value their perspective.

Maybe you don't mean to be indifferent, but often forget to keep important information about friends or family, such as their important birthdays, plans, or stories. This can be interpreted as less caring or not appreciating their stories. To fix it, try recording small personal things or repeating that information in memory to show that you do pay attention.

Have you ever felt that what do you want to always come first? Or are you likely to cut queues or ask for special things without considering other people? Even though it's not always intentional, this kind of attitude can make other people feel you are the center of attention. Try appreciating other people's space and time, and learning so you don't always think of everything spinning around you.

Sometimes, you may feel that the rules are too restrictive, so they often ask for exceptions. Whether in the workplace, queue, or in other social situations. If this is done too often, other people can see you as a person who feels the rules don't apply to yourself. Better, follow the general rules sincerely so as not to give a special impression without a basis.

Self-reflection is not a matter of blaming, but about realizing the small effects you may not realize with those around you. By improving your speech patterns, increasing empathy, listening to your things, respecting the details, and respecting other people's rules and spaces, you can grow up to be a wiser and more enjoyable person. Remember, small changes in everyday habits can have a major impact on your social relationship. Hopefully the light reflection above opens up opportunities to grow together better.