4 Children's Behaviors That Often Trigger Parents' Emotions

JAKARTA - Parenting children is not an easy matter. As a parent, you are required to be able to understand all of their behavior. Starting from their nosy behavior to their polite and adorable behavior.

However, the journey of educating children is not always beautiful. Sometimes parents are faced with difficult situations when teaching their little ones good and bad.

Jennifer Kolari, MSW, RSW, child and family therapist, author of Connected Parenting: How to Raise a Great Kids, says "The most common trigger (of anger) is that children remind us of ourselves".

Then, what are the things that make it easy for parents to lose their temper when educating their children? And how to solve it?

Arguing

Every parent feels that their children have an obligation to listen to their every word. It is true, but this cannot be fully applied to children aged 2 to 3 years old. The reason is, in this phase children will say "no" to whatever their parents ask for because they are asserting themselves that the full power over them is themselves.

So, if you ask your child to do something but are denied it, it would be good to explain to your child the reasons why they should do it.

Tantrum child

All parents will feel annoyed when their little one starts tantrums. Hearing your little one's whines, cries, and screams when angry certainly drains patience. If you can't stand it, anger will become a weapon to silence your children. Apparently, this wouldn't solve the problem.

Instead of getting angry, take a few deep, silent breaths. This activity can help you relax and be clear about seeing problems. Then, try to reflect on yourself. You must be annoyed when what you want is also not fulfilled.

Therefore, try to be calm and try to understand what your little one means. That way, your calm will be contagious to the child.

Child hurts physically

When children start hurting physically, that's when the parents' patience really seems to be tested. There are times when children's tantrums turn out to be downright creepy. The punches, pulls, or pinches are often delivered and difficult to control. Of course, this makes your self-esteem as a parent hurt. At times like this, you can say "Stop!" or "No!" assertively and with a gesture that shows that you are angry.

After that, also tell the child how to convey the correct anger so that they do not physically injure you and themselves.

Sibling Fight

The quarrels that often occur between siblings really drain parents' emotions. Taking care of children in a calm condition is not easy, especially when they are both aggressive.

Fighting with siblings is indeed the duty of parents who have more than one child to calm them down. You can assert justice to them. Spend time together fairly often so that no one gets jealous.