Women Support Women Only Slogan, Difficult To Occupy Is One Characteristic Of Narsistics

JAKARTA - The virtual world is being shocked by the case of abuse by a childcareer from Malang, Aghnia Punjabi. Nia, as she was called, uploaded a photo of her battered child after being mistreated by a nanny.

From the photo, JAP, Aghnia's 5-month-old son, has severe bruises on his left eye, scratches on his right and left ear, and forehead.

Initially, the Sister admitted that JAP suffered an injury due to falling. However, because she couldn't believe it, Aghnia checked the CCTV in her room and it was seen that her child was subjected to violence by being beaten, pulled, pinched, and even crushed.

Seeing her sister, IPS (27), Aghnia then reported the act to the Malang City Police and was finally named a suspect.

"For the suspect who has been secured with the initials IPS, a 27-year-old woman has committed a criminal act of violence against children," said Budi Hermanto, quoted from the @polrestamalangkotaofficial account.

The act of persecution took place on Thursday, March 28, 2024 at around 04.18 WIB. At that time Aghnia and her husband were in Jakarta for two days because of work. According to reports, JAP was left at home with IPS and a relative of Aghnia. At the time of the incident, JAP locked the room from inside while other assistants of Aghnia's household and her brother were eating sahur.

The photo uploaded by Aghnia was immediately flooded with netizen comments. Most of them gave moral support to this celebgram. But in the midst of the feeling of being devastated to see his son being tortured, Aghnia also had to receive unpleasant treatment from netizens.

Not a few blame Aghnia for leaving their child to work. The judging comments of this celebgram are not just one or two.

"Still what's wrong is his mother, it's harder to have a career than a child," wrote @nusaimahnadiah in the comment column of Aghnia Punjabi's Instagram account.

Similar comments were also found in several other accounts. It is quite concerning, when a mother feels saddened, she is judged for what she experienced. In fact, support as a form of solidarity is what Aghnia needs now.

The celebrity Tamara Tyasmara, who lost her only son, Dante, has almost the same experience, died as a result of being drowned by Tamara's lover in a swimming pool in the North Jakarta area.

At that time, instead of empathizing, netizens attacked Tamara and questioned her maternal instincts just because she was deemed less showing sad facial expressions after her child left her.

Aghni and Tamara are just a few of the many cases where a mother is to blame when something unpleasant happens to her child. People are less empathetic about other people's difficulties.

Empathy is the ability to understand the perspective or views of others, as if putting yourself in someone else's position and feeling what others feel.

The ability to empathize is actually very much needed in dealing with other people. However, people with eccentric personality disorders tend to lack empathy for others.

According to Psychology Today, people with eccentric disorders are reluctant to show empathy for fear it is considered as one of the weaknesses.

"So as a form of self-protection, they then do not show empathy," according to Psychology Today's review.

On the other hand, what happened to Aghnia, and maybe another mother who was blamed for what happened to her child, realized that the womensupport women's slogan was just a dream. According to experts, the behavior of each other is rooted in sexism and misoganists who are strongly nested in the culture of our society.

Living in patriarchal society makes women often the target of discrimination and violence. Misogynist and sexist behavior is not only done by men, because women can also behave sexically and express hatred for others. So, instead of supporting each other, women can actually embarrass, shrink, and bring down others.

These values have rooted and influenced many of our people's cultures. Even from the family environment so that this has absorbed the sub-awarelam. As a result, maybe some of us are not aware that behavior is actually sexist and misogynist.

Saat ini yang dibutuh Aghnia hanya dukungan dari sesama perempuan, ketika ia sendiri juga sedang berupaya membuhkan luka internal dan fisik putrinya, bukan malah mem judging.