Pinch, Hit And Jewer Children, KPAI Records Mothers The Biggest Perpetrators Of Child Violence During The Pandemic

Illustration (Unsplash)

JAKARTA - Commissioner of the Indonesian Child Protection Commission (KPAI) for Trafficking and Exploitation Ai Maryati Solihah revealed that the violence that occurred to children during the COVID-19 pandemic was predominantly carried out by mothers.

“23 percent of children physically admit that they have been pinched by their parents, with a total of 63 percent being pinched by their mother, 36 percent by their brother, followed by their father at 27 percent. Here, we highlight that mothers are perpetrators because there is a domino effect of double and even multiple burdens,” said Ai in a webinar in Jakarta, Antara, Saturday, July 24.

This data is based on a survey of 25,164 child respondents and 14,169 parents conducted in 34 provinces in 2020. The first physical violence perpetrated by a mother is pinching the child, followed by hitting and pinching the child's ear.

While psychologically, 79 percent of children admitted that they had been scolded and yelled at by their mothers.

According to him, the violence occurred because of the burden of the dual role that must be carried out by a mother, whether being a housewife, office worker, or teacher for children while at home during the pandemic.

"The domino impact is related to Komnas Perempuan's research as well, that the emotional situation felt by mothers during this pandemic must find a channel to convey or express or consult. But this has not been done," he said.

Talking about how to care for children, 66 percent of parents admitted that they had never attended training or received information about child care. The rest claimed to have received parenting information through social media.

Meanwhile, clinical psychologist as well as the highest executive officer (CEO) and founder of Personal Growth Ratih Ibrahim said parents need to apply the concept of love, consequence, consistency, compactness, compromise (5K) in parenting.

"So when we do care for our children, the concept is just 5K. Number one love, we love our children. With love, no matter how hard, no matter how hard we challenge, we still have love there," said Ratih.

Furthermore, according to him, parents need to be consistent with what has been taught to their children. Like when teaching children to eat vegetables, this needs to be balanced with consistency that can help the system work.

Ratih said, if the system that has been made by parents can run consistently and consistently, then the family will be united.

“This is a year for collaboration, we do everything together father, mother, children. Young children can indeed be taught responsibility, ma'am? It's possible," he said explaining the last concept in child care.