Exclusive Arda Naff, Learns To Love Sincerely Through Book Writing Trips

Arda Naff (Photo: Bambang E Ros, DI: Raga/VOI)

JAKARTA - Hatna Danarda or better known as Arda Naff received the title of Husband of the Present from netizens. Arda is considered a good husband for Tantri Syalintri or Tantri Kosak and for her two children, Karanada Medina Tanarda and Arkhairan Cadenza Tanarda through uploads on their personal Instagram social media accounts.

In an exclusive interview with VOI, Arda said that he did not actually intentionally make the figure so that he could get the title as a husband and as well as a good father. He felt that what he uploaded and told on his personal social media was his identity as it was.

In fact, at first, Arda was confused about having to treat her like the social media account she had. Because as far as he knows, social media is usually filled with words of wisdom and are required to continue to look perfect for his followers.

"This is when my social media appeared, my social media became someone else. I don't understand the method, 'oh, if social media has to quote, right?', 'oh, must you not be disabled, right?', but 'how long have you been tired playing social media?', because of the tiring things in yourself in this world. Now, I continue to find a formula that because viewers, likes, it's not my power, it's like the toll road doesn't have an end, I want to make social media. what do I want to make, anything, who talked about anything that I didn't have any intention in the quote, I didn't have any intention to hurt people, it's just a story about personal, a story about as real as possible, "said Arda in the Jagakarsa area, South Jakarta, Friday, March 22.

"If people think that, 'whether it's an image?', I really want to be yourself, but I have to say that good praise is the same as bad praise, because it can be a blow too, it can be a double-edged knife. It's just that what I want to share is that I really want to tell you that humans are not perfect, then I tell you that it's to say I'm not perfect. That's why I'm in between the busyness of playing with my children, among those I have to pursue I have a family that I have to maintain, I'm fertilizer, because in the whole world there is no end, so I probably have a lot of stories about the things that are grounded, "continued Arda.

But unexpectedly, Arda's story could be an inspiration for his followers on Instagram. He said that some of his followers shared their everyday stories with a through a short message on his Instagram account. Even Arda admitted that there was one of his video uploads about the departure of his mother which finally made one of his followers decide to go home to improve communication with his parents.

"Yesterday I told you about immigrants, about my story in the book Pelabuhan Terakhir which I met you, I was understood. Now it's home to pursuing a career, but when I returned home to my mother I was infected and didn't accompany me during the death ceremony. So I tell you what it is, 'oh yes yes, parents sometimes really don't want to bother their children and children, they always feel they have never succeeded in making their parents happy', the point of view is indeed from within the heart, from heart and people, 'oh my heart, mas' and everyone spills out there," he added.

"And the post has been busy to this day how many million have watched and that's again happy for me until someone said that someone had DM-DM, I captured it but I haven't dared to share it yet, I have to get permission. He bought a ticket to go home, that's just a post, I thought it was just a post but he bought a ticket to go home, he planned, "I didn't actually go home, I saved but I immediately bought this post to go home, I wanted to hang out with my parents, there was a commotion that my parents might not be good", said Arda.

This 35-year-old man does not have his own way so that his story can be accepted by people. The most important thing for Arda is just what it is. He tries to tell every event in his life as it is and with care.

"The more I intend, 'Wow, I want to inspire people', 'Wow, I think sincerity is gone'. Okay, I teach sincerity, wow, I'm getting more and more dishonest, I want to make content that makes a lot. Wow, it's not crowded, I want to share things that I think are good, that's early. I believe that in the world of energy that's what is said, energy for continuation, even comments, bad things, there is energy that goes on, which makes people sad, what makes people stressed, what makes people so hurt and everything like that, I'm more careful," he explained.

"I don't dare to say it sincerely, the more I tell the meaning of my sincerity, the more I'm not sincere, so what I want, I just want it to be," he said.

Getting a big appreciation for the simple stories on social media accounts made Arda finally move to make a book specifically to tell her love journey with her wife, Tantri Syalintri. The journey of this book began with the covid 2 years ago where Tantri herself did not know the journey of writing this book.

As a new person who wrote a book for the first time, Arda admits that it is not an easy matter. The reason is that he had to consult a psychologist to be able to finish this book which forced him to re-open dark memories in life that he no longer wanted to bring up again.

"Then 2 years ago when I was Covid, I often wrote people saying 'Mas makes books', 'Mas your work quickly affects other people', then, 'Oh yes, I'm making it up', 'I want to write ah', I'm writing, I'm writing, I don't know where the book is going, I just write it and Tantri doesn't even know the writing process," said Arda.

"I wrote right in the middle of my stop, 'Astagfirullah is really hard,' oh my life that I've been through until I stop, until I go to a psychologist frankly because of the memory racks that I have stored in memory, I already don't want to, I brought it back up again and it hurts. I stopped for how many months then Tantri said 'you write bad things, what happens in your life may be a good thing for others'. Wow, I immediately yes, why should I experience things that might be the worst first and all kinds of things, maybe to share with each other so that we can strengthen each other', "he continued.

Finally, Arda decided to make a book that became his love journey with Tantri Syalindri which will soon enter its 10th marriage age. Where the beginning of the love journey began with the doubt of a man who was not yet established with a woman who had become a rockstar and was known throughout Indonesia.

When I was dating, I said, when he was a rockstar, I was still a boy, confused about what to do, what to do, what to do, his birthday, oh there were many gifts, because he had become an artist, there were cellphones, rings, all kinds of things, well, everyone could buy. So I want to present a song, I made a title song at the last port. The lyrics say there are words I realize I have nothing but improvements because the love sense' is just like this, Okay, if the ring can be thrown away, maybe the cellphone may not be up to date but if the song is definitely known, like that,'' he exclaimed.

"Well, I kept listening to the song to him, at that time it was only 2010 I really remember his hair fell like that, then he used a headset and then he listened to it and he cried, he said, 'If we match this song, we will record it together'. Now in 2014, finally we wanted to get married, so 10 days earlier we promised eh, the song was promised first, 'yes, let's record it', finally we recorded the song, it was finally the beginning of going up, this is the 10th wedding this year,' explained Arda.

According to Arda, the 10 year marriage journey is not an easy thing for Arda and Tantri to pass, the emergence of quarrels, boredom, emotions and all kinds of things has been felt by the couple who married in 2014. So that one way to minimize boredom and fights with his wife is to write a book that is used as self-reflection.

"I've been in love many times, yes, it's definitely for sure, but there are moments that are jealous, suddenly this moment is about the taste, yes, feelings can change, especially humans, right, so God is the one who gets back at you, suddenly you can get angry, suddenly you can fight, suddenly you can hate. Now, these are my efforts to make more sparks, including on social media, including for surprises, including reflections to make books and all kinds of things so that love is present again, if it won't be flat," he continued.

"The test of people loving is boredom, we will be tested as boring as well. Now it turns out that when we get it, it turns out that it is more difficult to take care of and take care of it is much more difficult than getting it so that we fall in love, right, that's each of them, until now the 10 year marriage for us is not a way, yes, there is a dream that we want to achieve, there is this in the future, 'let's achieve it', later there will be a goal and there will also be works that make us preserved because it's like a glass will not be filled with water when the water is full, so it must be filled elsewhere,' concluded Arda closing the interview with VOI.