Tips On Facing The Nearest People Who Experiencing Loss

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JAKARTA - Losing loved ones, for example because of death, can cause deep sadness. Psychologist from the University of Indonesia Applied Psychology Institute (LPT UI), Mira D. Amir, Psi, advised the family not to rush to suggest that the person concerned immediately stop being sad.

"Let him go in his sad times. We don't need to get him to stop being sad quickly, No need to say 'Never, It's ok, It's fine', 'don't be like that'. The recovery process is very individual," Mira said, as reported by ANTARA.

"Let him be in his sad time. Up and down," he added.

If this person experiences a relatively longer sad period than the others, then understand why he is like that, for example whether this person is the melancholic type or has a deeper emotional closeness to the deceased.

"For example, the father has three children. The first child may be able to immediately recover from sadness. But a second child may have emotional closeness to the deceased so he needs time to recover," he said.

Mira revealed that she had handled the case of a child facing the death of his mother. At that time, the family asked why this child could not immediately be separated from his sadness, compared to his younger brother or brother.

"It turned out that this child was melancholical, when his mother was about his sister, he wanted to give an inscription to his mother. However, the mother died so that the writing was never conveyed. For other people it's simple but for them it's a huge meaning," he said.

According to Mira, music can help a person relax. If there is emotional pressure that is difficult to eject, it can be done by playing music.

"You can use non-linear music, but it is therapeutic. Choose something calm so that he can explain, let him cry, give him another chance to breathe again so he can relax and see a wider problem perspective," Mira said.