How About 'Normal' Orgasms And Ejaculation? Here's The Expert's Explanation

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YOGYAKARTA – Almost every couple is curious about how 'normal' sexuality is. Marty Klein, Ph.D., a certified sex therapist and licensed psychologist, says during the 35 years in his profession, countless couples have asked how long orgasms and/or normal ejaculations take, how many inches of penetration, how long sexual intercourse takes, and so on.

Both men and women compare themselves to some 'average' and judge themselves. Are they better, or at least the same as everyone else, and are they okay. According to Klein, as reported by Psychology Today, what is normal does not predict the answer to the question of sexual success. According to his experience as a sex therapist and psychologist, the 'normal' sexually often stumbles on the following things.

Adults have sex when they are tired

In the context of America, most people make love to their partners when they are too tired to do anything productive. It's rare for adults to say "Honey, can we be alone Saturday night?" or “Oh, your parents are bringing the kids tomorrow night? Let's have sex instead of dating."

When tired, sex tends to be short, perfunctory, goal-oriented, and mechanical. Little energy to kiss, impatient for foreplay, and if things don't go as planned, the couple will delay being alone.

Many people are not aware during or before having sex

Usually, Klein explained, it was because they were nervous or wanted to reduce their inhibitions by inviting their partner over for a drink. Or because sex is physically or emotionally uncomfortable. When people are under the influence of alcohol, for example, decision-making tends to be compromised. What happens, do not use contraception, tend not to communicate clearly, awkward in bed whose effects are difficult to reach climax or orgasm and ejaculation.

Doesn't always know the partner's preferences

Two people in pairs, need to always know each other's preferences in food, music, movies, driving style, and more. But many people are hesitant to talk about their sexual preferences.

A number of the obstacles above, if they can be overcome can underlie or become a condition for 'normal' sexuality. For couples who have been committed for a long time, consent or approval is also appropriate, it must be two-way.