4 Ways To Maintain Sexual Relationships In Couples In Their 60s

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JAKARTA - Many people believe that sex becomes less prioritized with age. It may be true for some, but according to a 2017 survey from the University of Michigan, 40 percent of people ages 65 to 80 are still sexually active.

Sex is an important measure of the quality of life for adults. But, over time, many problems arise that can make sex difficult to do. These include erectile dysfunction (ED), vaginal dryness, urinary incontinence, and uterine prolapse (when the uterus descends into the vagina).

Chronic medical conditions, medication side effects, and emotional problems can also contribute to a decreased desire to have sex with a partner.

Then, how do you maintain sexual relations in your 60s? Here's the secret as reported by VOI from Very Well Health, Tuesday, March 29.

Communication

Good sex starts with good communication. Couples who have been together a long time often think they know what their partner is thinking. In fact, no one can read other people's minds.

Talk to your partner about any concerns you have. You may feel as though your partner is no longer interested in you because sex is becoming less frequent, when in fact they are experiencing a decline in sexual interest.

Also, because sex organs change with age, what used to feel good may no longer feel good or may even be painful. Be open with your partner about this change.

However, communicating about sex can be a challenge at any age. If you and your partner have trouble talking about sex, consider seeing a sex therapist to make communication easier.

Redefine the meaning of sex

As you get older, sex needs to change. You can explore a variety of styles that you and your partner have never done. Research shows that older people have a broader definition of sexual activity than younger people. In other words, they better understand that there is a lot in sex that can be done. Foreplay alone can be very satisfying. For that, be creative and willing to try new things.

Rebuild intimate relationship

Sex is not just physical. It is an emotional expression of intimacy. With age, sexual intimacy changes. Try to have emotional intimacy with your partner that can be expressed through non-sexual physical touch, such as holding hands, hugging, putting a hand on your partner's shoulder, or kissing.

Hurry up do it

Instead of waiting for the desire to have sex, you can just immediately invite your partner without having to wait. This is because sex has both physical and emotional benefits. Orgasms release oxytocin, a hormone that induces a state of calm and improves sleep. Having sex regularly helps increase the natural lubrication and elasticity of the vagina. It can also improve erections in men.