When Couple Cheating, Should You Choose Divorce Or Stay?

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JAKARTA - Infidelity is never finished. Recent research in the Us Journal from Marital and Family Therapy even shows that 57% of men and 54% of women have had an affair at least once. Of course no one wants to be the victim of an affair, especially after marriage, but have you ever thought, what would happen if this happened to you?

When your partner cheats on you, do you choose to divorce or stay? Reporting from the Marie Claire website, Tuesday, August 24, there are several ways that can help you make this decision.

Talk everything to your partner

You certainly have a lot of questions on your partner. Starting from the reason for cheating, since when, whether the feeling stays in the heart, and much more. Ask him everything even though the answer will hurt. But, this way, you will actually be helped to make peace with yourself in the future. It's also a good idea to set a time limit when discussing this, maybe around 15-30 minutes.

Trying to heal

The emotions you feel after finding out your partner is cheating on you must be raging. Seek professional help immediately to help you accept this reality. You can also invite your partner to try individual therapy. Remember, you don't have to rush into it at the start of the affair, only do it when you're ready. This is where later you can begin to determine whether you want to divorce or stay.

No need to hurry

Recovering from infidelity is not easy. Everyone knows that. If you finally decide to stick with it, you can continue therapy and communication with your partner. This will certainly make your relationship better. But be prepared to face flashback moments that can make you feel hurt again due to your partner's actions. Remember, this is perfectly normal and is part of the self-healing process.

Change mindset

Finally, instead of seeing infidelity as a dark period in your life, you can try to "turn it" into a moment that makes you "reborn." This is the beginning of a happier and more successful life change. Of course this will be a good thing for the future love relationship, whether you decide to divorce or stay with him.