Want Oral Sex Feels More Enjoyable? Try Doing This

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JAKARTA - The first thing to remember before doing oral sex or blow job to your partner is, stop thinking about it as a "job". For women, performing oral sex on a partner or making them do the same to us, can result in the most intense orgasms that both parties have ever experienced. Before doing so, observe the following steps:

Prepare the basics

Make sure you don't dry your mouth, tie your hair in a ponytail, and don't use your teeth unless you're experienced and know what you're doing. On the other hand, also keep the fine hair in your vagina clean. Men's preferences when performing oral sex to you vary. Some like it when there is no hair at all, some like it when they leave a little hair, and some even like being "treated" with thick hair! Talk to your partner about what made them turn on about it.

Pay attention to your partner's wishes

Oral sex is a good time to ask your partner what they like and what feels good to them. "Some men like it when your teeth are involved, there are also those who only like it when only your lips play. Some like it when the tip of the penis is sucked. On the other hand, there are women who like a gentle touch on the clitoris. There are also those who like deeper rubbing," said Dr. Alyse Kelly-Jones of Mintview OB/GYN in Charlotte NC, USA, launches the Herworld page, Wednesday, July 28. The benefit of oral sex is knowing what makes your partner "explosive"!

Make the couple wait

Tell them in advance what you want to do, then let them wait. Start at the top, then slowly work your way down, but not to the end. Not infrequently, both women and men will rush to have oral sex, forgetting that anticipation can be an aphrodisiac in itself.

By building anticipation during oral sex, you will increase the chances of an orgasm. Let your partner approach orgasm, then stop. Be a teaser, because when you actually give him the orgasm he's been waiting for, then the orgasm will be explosive. Especially if they're worried you'll quit again.

Consider adding lubricant

Lubricants make oral sex hotter because they allow you to try a variety of techniques and positions, explains Dr. Jess, Resident Sexologist at Astroglide. For example, if you like to grip things tightly during a blow job, one of the best techniques is to "pinch" them with your mouth but keep your upper teeth with your upper lip and lower teeth with your tongue.

This technique is actually really great to do, but unfortunately makes your mouth dry quickly. By adding a few drops of lubricant, the technique can bring pleasure to both of you.