7 Sexting Tips To Keep Your Marriage Warm

Illustration of sexting tips to keep the wedding warm (Freepik/Pressfoto)

JAKARTA – There are various ways to maintain the warmth of domestic life, for example by keeping sexual desire burning and forging emotional bonds with your partner. Sexting can also be done, but it is necessary to be careful with the confidentiality of chit-chat and understand the limitations.

Reported by NBC News, Monday, June 21, a study showed that married couples who sent pictures to each other reported positive sexual and emotional relationships.

Sending sexy pictures or texts to a partner or sexting, according to the journal Computers in Human Behavior, found that 75 percent of young adult couples do it. While 62 percent said they sent and received sexting explicitly.

Half of the couples who took the survey reported that it positively affected their sexual and emotional relationship with their partner. Sexting itself can be understood as a form of 'flirty' communication that is beneficial for long-term relationships.

The results of the survey data are interesting, because there are reasons for safety, shame, and maintaining a reputation so that they are reluctant to have sex with a partner. Based on the study, the majority of men can experience positive feelings about the effects of sexting in marital and casual relationships.

While most women need a higher level of emotional commitment to feel comfortable taking part.

From this, experts hypothesize that women use sexting as a way to achieve emotional closeness. This is the basis for most women to feel comfortable with their partners and married couples can do this explicitly.

"Just because you see your partner every day is no excuse for not having sex. It's a great way to cheer up your partner when he or she comes home, and set the mood for a fun night out," says Gigi Engle, a Sexting 101 teacher in New York City.

Engle added again, the brain is the largest sexual organ and to be aroused in the body must start from the mind.

Kelley Kitley, LCSW., owner of Seredipitious Psychotherapy and author of MY Self recommends sexting as a method of increasing intimacy with clients and partners when the marital relationship is dull and desire is low.

Sexting can also be a door for a more open dialogue about your sex life and your partner. In the Journal of Social and Personal Relationships shows that sexting can increase sexual satisfaction and your overall relationship, especially for married couples.

To do sexting, pay attention to the advice of the following experts.

Understand about consent

Consent or approval from each partner is important to understand. Sexting should only be done when you and your partner feel comfortable and mutually agree with the activity.

Start with something 'flirty'

Engle suggests starting a conversation with the closest thing that you and your partner both know. For example, let's say you buy a new sexy outfit and send a picture and message saying "I feel so sexy, what do you think?".

Get new inspiration

Inspiration for sexting can come from anywhere, such as television scenes, erotic passages in book excerpts, or your fantasies. Engle said, it could be a photo or a text, it depends on what makes you feel comfortable.

Make sure it's a two-way street

If you're the one initiating the sexting conversation with your partner, keep in mind that everyone has to be involved in order to have a positive outcome. Engle suggests using positive affirmations to build trust in your partner.

Illustration of two-way street sexting (Freepik/Pressfoto)

Get creative with adjectives, emojis, voice memos and gifs

Engle notes that adjectives are very important, the more you use them the sexting they become. Emoji can be used to replace words that do not need to be written explicitly.

Understand technology for safer sexting

For example by turning off notifications on your phone screen or making context clips will only be displayed if you enter a password.

Protect photos with apps

There are many applications, such as Private Photo Vault, which have the goal of protecting private photos. You and your partner can also use apps designed for couples.

Want to try sexting so that your partner wants to rush home and meet you to enjoy the 'warm' moment together?