JAKARTA - The attention and love of the couple is something that feels most needed when in a relationship. However, sometimes, being too much attention can make you uncomfortable or feel restricted.
When this happens, you must wonder, does your partner give you attention because he loves you or does he restrain you?
The term 'loving or restraining' gives an idea of the form of 'protective or possessive' attention. You may not realize that the form of attention from your partner so far actually leads to a possessive nature that turns out to make you uncomfortable.
The meaning of possessiveness as quoted from Marriage.com, Friday, January 30 is a trait that makes a person feel like an owner. This sense of ownership and protection makes a person feel entitled to regulate the lives of others.
Posesif is actually often found in a relationship. Because this trait indicates a sense of mutual 'ownership' and wanting to 'protect' each other. But how good is the level of possessiveness that can be regulated as much as possible so as not to cause discomfort that leads to separation.
Healthy and good relationships should be based on attention that is protective. Unlike possessive, protective is a sense of ownership and protection but still accompanied by a sense of appreciation and prioritizing the happiness of the couple.
The difference between possessive and protective traits can be clearly realized. If your partner shows the impression of wanting to have you completely, then the behavior can be said to be possessive, while the protective partner wants to protect more but still cares about your happiness.
Possessiveness can also come from within yourself. For example, when the impression in your mind arises that you only belong to your partner. In fact, the right attitude is when you and your partner give space for yourself and others.
The thing that can be done in dealing with a possessive partner is to find out first the cause of the possessive nature. People who are possessive generally have a traumatic background in their past so that they behave like that. For that, try to believe your partner if you really love him.
Keep in mind, having a partner does not mean you have to know all your privacy. Giving personal space is one way to live a healthy relationship. Don't let your love affair fall apart just because of your possessive nature. Make each other's boundaries so that the relationship feels more comfortable and filled with trust between each other.
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