5 Signs Of Couples Committing Emotional Abuse

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JAKARTA - Often feel uncomfortable or feel pressured in relationships? It could be that you experience emotional abuse by your partner. Remember, violence is not always about physical. It is possible that your partner never hits, pinches, slaps, kicks, throws things, grabs, or injures. But he can do psychological violence which is usually called emotional abuse.

Sometimes, many people don't realize that their partner is being emotionally abused. But to make you more alert, first try to find out some signs of emotional abuse that someone usually does.

Always blamed

Whatever happens, you are always blamed. He can't accept that he makes a mistake and gives it all to you. Yes, he didn't hit, but he didn't hesitate to shout and curse in a high tone. He was never good enough to talk to and preferred to scold him to the point of frightening him.

Often condescending and insulting

It is only natural that there is something about you that your partner doesn't like. For example physically, how to dress, activities, hobbies, work, and so on. Instead of speaking kindly or giving polite suggestions, they often put down and insult you as if you were grossly disgusting. He doesn't hesitate to say hurtful things to you.

Shaming in front of others

There will be a certain sense of joy if you are proud in front of other people, huh? For example, how successful you are at work, have a positive hobby, have just achieved an achievement, work at a well-known company, or whatever. However, couples who do emotional abuse will do the opposite.

If you and your partner are hanging out with other friends, he or she likes to embarrass you. He will not hesitate to insult you, laugh at your conversations, divulge embarrassing secrets, and bully in front of other people.

Don't care about feelings

Any emotional abuse she has ever endured makes you sad, afraid, uncomfortable, and depressed. When you express these feelings, he likely doesn't care. He will stick to the opinion that what he is doing is the right thing and will think that you are too overly sensitive, too sensitive, and clueless.

Threatening

Another sign of emotional abuse is that he is often threatening. He will do everything he can to get you to obey, do whatever he wants, and must not break the rules he made himself. If you refuse, he will threaten anything he knows you don't like, for example, divulge big secrets, threaten to leave, break up, or even commit suicide.

If you experience the above signs and feel like you can't hold back from the pressure, don't hesitate to ask for help. Mental health is the main thing that must be a priority. You never know if in the future he will commit physical violence that threatens your life. Don't hesitate to ask for help from trusted people or consult a psychologist.