JAKARTA - The news of the collapse of the house of the Member of the Indonesian Parliament, Atalia Praratya and former West Java Governor Ridwan Kamil shocked the public.
Atalia is reported to have officially filed for divorce from her husband at the Bandung Religious Court. This marks a new chapter in the personal lives of the couple, who have been known to be harmonious.
The lawsuit was filed at the same time as a moment that should have been a celebration of happiness, namely their 29th wedding anniversary. For years, this date has often been a symbol of Ridwan Kamil and Atalia's togetherness in the eyes of the public.
The couple last celebrated their wedding anniversary on December 7, 2024. This moment was also Atalia's last upload on her personal Instagram account which showed their togetherness as husband and wife.
Not long after, public attention was again sucked in by the confession of a woman named Lisa Mariana. She claimed to have a child who was said to be the result of her relationship with Ridwan Kamil. This confession triggered widespread speculation and heated discussions in the public space, as well as strengthening the spotlight on the dynamics of the couple's household.
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Behind various divorce stories, family law experts assess that there is one main factor that often triggers the collapse of a marriage.
Divorce lawyer Jackie Combs, who has been handling family law cases for eight years, cites a lack of communication as the number one reason people decide to split up. As a lawyer at law firm Blank Rome, Combs handles clients with wealthy and celebrity backgrounds, including model Emily Ratajkowski and hairstylist Chris Appleton.
"Many of my clients have a net worth of more than 25 million US dollars (Rp416 billion)," Combs said, quoted from the CNBC Make It! website.
The majority of them come from the younger generation, especially Gen Z and millennials. According to Combs, his clients often open up the most personal side of their lives.
"I have a very intimate relationship with my clients. As their legal counsel, I am in everyone's bedroom and bank account," he said.
Poor communication problems almost always arise in every case. This issue often stems from a misunderstanding of basic values, especially about finances.
Differences in how to spend money, prepare budgets, to plan savings often become a source of prolonged conflict.
Even simple things can trigger a fight, for example, the habit of buying expensive coffee every morning which is considered normal by one party, but is considered wasteful by his partner.
Apart from finances, conflicts also arise from differences in views on child rearing patterns, priority of time together, to long-term life goals.
"If you can communicate, you can solve and survive any storm," Combs said.
A similar view was expressed by celebrity divorce lawyer Laura Wasser. He assessed that many couples failed to build communication skills when the relationship was going well, so when problems arose, they were not ready to talk about it maturely.
Wasser recommends that couples discuss important decisions from the beginning of the relationship, such as children's education and the role of the extended family in old age. Meanwhile, family law attorney Padideh Jafari suggests open conversations before marriage, including financial conditions, religious values, and the possibility of making a prenuptial agreement.
In the end, experts agree that communication is not just a complement in marriage, but the main foundation. Without honest and open communication, relationships that seem strong in the public eye can collapse due to unresolved conflicts.
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