Invisible Wounds: The Impact Of Childhood Emotional Touching On Adult Life

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JAKARTA - Not all wounds leave visible scars. There are types of wounds that are silent, not heard, but make an impression for a long time, namely emotional neglect in childhood. Many people only realize it after adulthood, when it is difficult to establish a healthy relationship, feel emotionally empty, or struggle with low self-esteem. This phenomenon is much more common than what they thought and understand its footprint could be the first step towards healing.

Adapted from the Very Well Mind page, Thursday, September 25, emotional neglect does not mean parents don't love their children, but when the child's emotional needs are not really fulfilled. For example, when crying is considered excessive, feelings of sadness are not recognized, or expressions of anger are immediately suppressed. As a result, children grow up without learning how to recognize, name, and manage their emotions healthily.

This childhood footprint often reappears when we grow up. Some of the impacts that are often felt include:

It's hard to recognize your own feelings. Many people feel 'empty' or confused about the emotions they experience. Tends to please others. There is an urge to always make others happy, even if they have to sacrifice themselves. Be afraid of being emotionally close. An intimate relationship can be scary because there is a fear of being rejected or abandoned. Low self-esteem. There are frequent feelings of not good enough or always feeling guilty. Inevitably unhealthy. Some people seek escape through excessive consumption, addiction, or unhealthy relationships.

The good news is that emotional neglect wounds can be restored. The way is of course gradual:

Learn to recognize emotions. Take time to write down feelings every day, even simple. Be kind to yourself. Don't underestimate yourself anymore. Remember, all emotions are valid and worth appreciating. Build healthy boundaries. Learn to say 'no' and keep a private space is a form of love for yourself. Look for professional support. Therapy can be a safe space to understand yourself and learn new patterns in contact. Self-aware self consistently. From light exercise, writing a journal, to taking time for hobbies, everything can be part of healing.

Emotional feelings of childhood may not be visible, but the impact is real. If you've ever felt it, know that you're not alone. With awareness, love for yourself, and proper support, old wounds can slowly heal. Most importantly, this journey is not about eradicating the past, but about building new relationships with yourself, who are healthier, healthier, intact, and full of love.