JAKARTA - Losing someone loved by death will indeed happen to everyone, including friends and friends. At times like this, you certainly want to make your friends feel better and entertain them. But sometimes, you feel confused that you can't say anything. Or instead say sentences that shouldn't be spoken to those who are grieving, and end up making friends feel hurt.
For this reason, launching Very Well Mind, Tuesday, August 5, Rebecca Feinglos, a Grief Support Specialist conveyed a list of sentences that should not be spoken to someone grieving.
It sounds like you're trying to understand the situation, but for someone who's grieving, it feels like you're underestimating what they're going through. In fact, not all pain has the right explanation, and not all loss makes sense. For someone grieving, there is no good enough reason to justify the loss of someone he loves.
Even if it is conveyed with good intentions, this can feel invalid or sad if the grieving person questions his faith or struggles to understand the loss.
"It's important not to express your own beliefs about death unless you know that grieving people also have the same belief," said Aimee Daramus, PsyD, a clinical psychologist at Clarity Clinic, Chicago.
Sadness is very personal and everyone has a unique experience. Even if you lose someone, their sadness still belongs to themselves, said Feinglos. "Avoid comparing yourself to them."
This phrase is often said to those who mourn because they have treated their loved ones when they are sick before finally dying. This phrase also means that people who have lost should not feel too sad. But in fact, this sentence will not reduce the sadness of losing someone.
Although this is in line with your religious or spiritual beliefs, it may also not be in line with their beliefs. Even though it is in line, it often didn't provide much comfort at that time. Because more than everything, these people most likely just want their loved ones here, with them, instead of elsewhere.
Even though this is true, the loss has not decreased. Grief is not reduced just because a loved one has lived for a long time.
This implies that one loved one can replace the other and reduce the significance of the people they have left behind.
This puts pressure on a person to stay strong, even though what they may need the most is to vent the pain and destroy what they feel.
Sadness knows no time limit, and telling someone to move on can sound like you want them to forget that person quickly, or replace him with something or someone.
This phrase tries to dictate how a person should be grieving. Although beautiful memories ultimately calm, sometimes in the early stages of sadness, these memories can exacerbate the pain of loss.
Here are some ways to support someone who is grieving, according to experts:
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