5 Risks Of Laborable Romantic Relations

Illustration of the risk of a hasty romantic relationship (Freepic)

YOGYAKARTA Every love story has its own uniqueness. When in a romantic relationship, there is something based on a slow growing love. But not a few romantic relationships are rushed. According to psychologist Robert Sternberg through a triangular theory, love consists of three main elements, namely intimacy (intimacy), passion, and commitment.

A romantic relationship based on hasty love, called fatuous love, has certain risks. Because it includes a form of relationship driven by passion and commitment without emotional closeness, it explains the risks that may be experienced.

Intimacy cannot be built overnight. It takes time, trust, and the process of getting to know each other to feel really close emotionally. When a hasty relationship only relies on attraction and lightning commitment, emotional foundations are often fragile. When conflict arises, relationships tend to break apart because there is no understanding of each other.

At the beginning of the relationship, everything felt sweet. But when the honeymoon phase is over, then there are differences in value, purpose of life, and habits that don't match. Quoting Marriage, Thursday, July 17, relationships that go too quickly often miss this important process, so that it can trigger major friction in the future.

Couples who don't really know each other tend to have difficulty resolving conflicts. When there is a difference of opinion, there is not enough adaptability because mutual trust or tolerance has not been built. So, small quarrels can develop into big problems.

Strong passion can create the effect of "blind love". Everything feels perfect at the beginning, and all the shortcomings are covered by euphoria. Unfortunately, when reality comes it hits, whether it's a lifestyle, finance, or an illusional habit it can collapse, and love also evaporates.

Many regret that after deciding to get married or live together too quickly. When the commitment has already been made, but there is no emotional comfort in it, the relationship can turn into a burden. Feelings of trappedness, disappointment, even emotional trauma can arise if it is not immediately realized and addressed.

In addition to understanding the risks of a hasty romantic relationship, it is also important to reflect on the reasons why you don't think long about establishing a serious commitment. Such as being carried away by euphoria or strong physical attraction, fear of loneliness or age pressure to immediately have a partner, wanting to quickly feel 'sttle' socially, or because it can be because it avoids inner wounds from previous relationships.

It needs to be understood carefully that a healthy love relationship requires time and awareness, not a moment of passion. This means that romantic relationships based on love need to be built wisely. Not wanting to be immediate, but ignoring sincerity and maturity in facing the common reality.