Tips For Training Yourself To Stop Talking About Others

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JAKARTA - When chatting with friends or co-workers, it is not uncommon without realizing that talks about other people take place. The conversation is related to commenting, judging, and even assessing the person's life.

Even though it looks trivial, this habit can have a bad impact not only on people being talked about, but also on themselves. Therefore, this habit of talking about other people must be stopped and can be done with the following tips.

1. Recognize the motive when you want to talk about other people

The first step you can take is to recognize the reason you want to talk about someone, quoted from the Yoga Journal, on Monday, July 14, 2025. Starting from whether you feel annoyed, jealous, or just because you want to have a topic of conversation?

By recognizing the motives behind your intention to talk about other people, it will be easier for you to hold back. Realize that not everything needs to be commented on, especially if it doesn't provide benefits.

2. Divert talks on more meaningful topics

Often the habit of talking about other people is due to boredom or needing exciting topics. However, try to shift the topic of conversation to positive or useful things.

Starting from discussing books, fims, the latest news, travel, to future dreams. Meaningful chats can actually strengthen relationships without having to bring down other parties.

3. Train yourself to listen more

Habits of talking about other people often also arise because we judge too often. Start empathizing self-training and get used to listening without rushing to comment.

When someone talks about other people, you can respond neutrally, without having to get involved in judging or judging about that person.