5 Tips For Creating Restrictions On Healthy Relations With In-laws

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JAKARTA - Generally, many couples face turmoil in marriage due to bad relationships with in-laws. According to a study by law firm Slater and Gordon, driven by Marriage.com, Tuesday, November 12, nearly a third of those surveyed admit that problems with in-laws and extended families are often referred to as reasons for divorce.

Although this figure is not too high, it is still worrying because marriage should not end because of bad relationships involving people outside of marriage. Therefore, if you don't want the marriage to end up useless, it is necessary to build boundaries or healthy boundaries.

Establishing healthy boundaries with in-laws is important to maintain a healthy and lasting marriage. Here are five tips to set boundaries with in-laws, without having to offend or create noise.

When dealing with in-laws in marriage, try to be honest. Conflict with in-laws is common, but what's important is how you solve the problem. Open communication with in-laws is the key to setting healthy boundaries. Talk about your needs and expectations, and listen to their concerns too.

Setting boundaries requires firmness. Don't be afraid to say no or speak when your in-laws cross the line. Be firm helps create physical and emotional boundaries and understand your needs without being influenced by others. By consistently being firm, in-laws will understand your boundaries over time and appreciate you more.

Are you tired of mother-in-law causing problems in marriage? Maybe you don't set the expectations right with him. Setting clear expectations helps to avoid misunderstandings. Explain specifically what makes you comfortable and what you don't.

Compromise with in-laws can help build healthy relationships. How to present compromise in relationships is fairly easy. Just find ways to accommodate each other's needs and preferences.

Just like you have boundaries, in-laws also have boundaries. Respect their boundaries and expect the same thing in return. Examples of healthy boundaries with in-laws can include setting limits on how often they visit or call, respect each other's parenting style, and do not interfere with each other's decisions.

Remember that setting boundaries does not mean cutting contact or creating conflict. But it is more about building healthy relationships and respecting each other with your in-laws.