5 This Is Felt By A Good Listener, Are You Included?

Illustration of what a good listener feels (Freepic)

YOGYAKARTA Being a good listener is not easy for everyone. If you are a good listener for your friends, it means they think you are a meaningful person. Although sometimes in a dilemma, because you certainly feel tired and want to be heard too. The following things are felt by a good listener.

Privacy is the most important thing that a listener has. Not only listening, your best friend may think of you as a professional therapist because of your ability to listen to their complaints or problems. In friendship, a good listener will keep his friends secret.

Concern describes a person's level of empathy. The more he cares, the more empathy he has. Well, for people who listen well, it will have concern for people in need. This is how they help. Maybe it doesn't help solve the problem, but at least helps ease the burden of feelings for people whose stories are heard.

A professional therapist, explained clinical therapist Maria Baratta, Ph.D., LSCW., diagnoses her patient. But a good listener in a friendly circle, they can accept what they are even though they are not aware of mental health problems. Usually, in friendship accepting what they are is quite fun and making their friends feel comfortable and honest being yourself.

You as a good listener, of course express your opinion even if it's different from your friends. But without being judged and accepted as it is, is it calm enough, isn't it? This is what a good listener feels. They don't judge and may open an open conversation that helps their friends to think more objectively.

Everyone is of course facing problems. At the end of a tiring day, maybe you have to drain your energy to take the time to be a good listener for your friends. If you need calm, it's okay to postpone the'stubborn' session and vent with your friends. Because recovering is tired, it takes a quiet time and can't listen to anything complicated.

For a good listener, without realizing it will be a place to talk about his friends. It can be a magnet, according to the Baratta as reported by Psychology Today, Friday, March 1. Even the ability to listen, can be considered as the sixth sense that makes your friends feel comfortable telling stories about their problems.