So That You Don't Misunderstand The Term Of Asexuality, This Is An Explanation According To Psychologists

Illustration of the meaning of the word asexual and asexuality according to psychology (Freepic)

YOGYAKARTA Sexual interest as the origin of sexual intercourse, is close to the welfare of couples and intimacy. But what about asexuality which is seen as wrong or associated with sexual intercourse or relationship issues?

The meaning of the word asexual according to KBBI, means without gender, without gender or having a sex organ that lacks function, or is produced without going through sexual activity or developing differently. According to psychologist Dr. Daniel Marston, asexuality is a sexual identity in which there is no sexual attraction in others. People who identify themselves as asexual want emotional intimacy but do not really or do not want sexual intimacy.

Over the past decade, people have been more aware that sexuality is much more diverse and varied. Including one of them is asexual preference. Reported by Psychology Today, Monday, March 13, sexual identity is often 'liquid', which means individuals can change their sexual identity into a different identity.

Asexual according to psychologist and author of Comparatative Psychology for Clinical Psychologists and Therapists, Dr. Daniel Marston, is not taboo for religious reasons or for painful relationships. Asexual does not consider sex painful or has medical problems that affect sexual pleasure. Asexual is also not sexual repression or a form of sexual dysfunction. Nor is sexual identity that occurs because a person does not find a partner.

Sexuality that is notabene is considered important, is actually not essential. This marks human relations, which are more important than the experience of sexuality in sexual intercourse. From a biological point of view, sexuality is indeed important in the realm of reproduction. But when it has no orientation or plans to have children or reproduction, sex is no longer important.

In addition, not having sex does not mean that one cannot be a parent. There are ways to adopt, fertilize in-vitro, and foster mothers are alternative ways to become parents without sex. Although it should be noted, not interested in sex and not consider it important is not the same as not being able to have sex. Many asexual people have sex with their partners when the goal is to have children. In this and other ways, sex can play a role in the life of an asexual person if it has a clear purpose.

Not only in humans, asexuality also occurs in animals. Biological research was conducted in 2018 which shows that animals in certain species are also asexual. When people realize that they are asexual, it is often scary. It can also be scary for their family and loved ones. This fear is often caused by how important it is for us to associate sex as 'essential' and very important to many people.

It is important and essential that it may seem like a small difference but actually a big difference. Everyone goes through their lives without having something that other people think is very important. Living as an individual human being means finding a way forward with what you think is important and not what others do, right?

Marston explained, being interested in sex is no more important in beautiful ways to find a partner. Including solving differences or communicating in the aspect of sexuality openly. In closing, being asexual does not always get a partner who is as transparent as asexual. In fact, pairwise relationships between asexual and sexual bring unique relationships in terms of sex. This couple brings more emotional intimacy in terms of sex.